Kathryn I have the hairbrush of my mom as well and it's used still on my daughters botties a lot Also yours is not looking that it has to be retired. It just can reden a lot of botties if needed
I wish I had my Mom's. She moved during my permissive parenting period. When I reverted I thought it would be great to tell my kids this is the same hairbrush that grandma spanked your mom with. But alas-- it was apparently lost in the move.
@Kaylabryan Mine routinely broke the spanking yardstick. I didn't mind her doing that especially when it happened while it was in use because she would often let me off at that point.
I used the same brush my mother used on me. I still have it in a drawer, and wonder if my daughter wants it as a souvenir. It was my granny's, so no doubt my mother also felt it - a sort of family tradition passed from mother to daughter. So far, my daughter has no girls so maybe that tradition will end.
@MissBrittany You and your Mom both used the same hairbrush! But on different parts of you. Great ambiguity when you say "Unfortunately so did my Mom!" Got to love those double meanings like when parents say "I am going to get to the bottom of this!"
No no no, Ma'am. Keep it as a treasured keepsake. It symbolizes your mom's love in that she used it as a learning tool that probably brought her more tears than it did you. That's a mom's love and true sacrifice.
@Madgirl Send me a one sentence or even one word private message. Then I can write back and tell you why you might have wanted to tell us guys! It is interesting.
@Annie1899 “When my mother had her first child my grandmother visited her in the hospital and gave her a wooden spanking paddle. 'Some day you will need this,' she told my mother. I heard my mother tell this story again and again throughout my childhood to justify her use of corporal punishment. As a child, I was determined never to spank my children. 'Some day you will understand,' my mother told me.” ~ Kathleen Berchelmann, MD,in “To Spank or Not to Spank” @ Catholic Mom http://bit.ly/2vGITfq
Dr. Berchelmann is a pediatrician who in this article says when she became a mom she did indeed spank, but later decided it was not for her. But, in the short article she goes over the spanking research in a fair objective way, which is never seen in mainstream media articles on corporal punishment of children.
I jumped for joy when Dr. Berchelmann mentioned that “The American College of Pediatricians (ACP) feels that 'Disciplinary spanking by parents, when properly used, can be an effective component in an overall disciplinary plan with children.'”
The ACP, although an organization of some 60,000 pediatricians and pediatric researchers, is totally ignored when we get all the news reports which more than imply that the “science is in” on spanking and it is the worst possible thing a parent could do.
Last January the ACP issued a warning about the No-Spank fake research: https://similarworlds.com/2327115-I-Am-A-Strict-Mom/596949-Recently-there-has-been-a-tsunami-of-reports-in
@beckychandler The "American College of Pediatricians" is merely a handful of socially-conservative pediatricians. This ersatz "professional organization" is so tiny their entire national membership could probably meet in a church basement. They refuse to divulge their actual membership numbers. The media (with the exception of Fox News) ignores them for good reason. They constitute an attempt to confuse the public into thinking they are the pediatric profession's national organization when they aren't.
You confused the ACP with the American Academy of Pediatrics, the bonafide, 66,000-strong, professional association with which the ACP clearly hoped you'd confuse them. The AAP, the real professional association of pediatricians, took a position against all forms of corporal punishment of children a couple decades ago:
"Because of the negative consequences of spanking and because it has been demonstrated to be no more effective than other approaches for managing undesired behavior in children, the American Academy of Pediatrics recommends that parents be encouraged and assisted in developing methods other than spanking in response to undesired behavior."
-American Association of Pediatrics policy paper RE9740, April 1998, pp 723-728.
The tiny ACP hold predictable "traditional values" positions on a variety of issues, including gay parenting, gay marriage, adoption by gay couples, pornography, keeping marijuana illegal, "abstinence-only" sex education, "therapy" to "cure" gay teenagers, gender dysphoria in children, abortion, and spanking - most of which differ from positions by the 66,000-member AAP. And by adopting a name similar to the AAP, the ACP strives to give their political-agenda-driven views the appearance of a professional imprimatur they plainly lack.
The myth-busting site, snopes.com, calls the ACP "an official-sounding but fringe group of politically motivated pediatricians.": https://www.snopes.com/fact-check/americas-pediatricians-gender-kids/
The Southern Poverty Law Center lists the ACP as "a fringe anti-LGBT hate group that masquerades as the premier U.S. association of pediatricians.": https://www.splcenter.org/fighting-hate/extremist-files/group/american-college-pediatricians
They have even been accused of deliberately misrepresenting research by the author of such research:
Statement from NIH Director Francis S. Collins, M.D., Ph.D., in Response to the American College of Pediatricians - April 15, 2010
"It is disturbing for me to see special interest groups distort my scientific observations to make a point against homosexuality. The American College of Pediatricians pulled language out of context from a book I wrote in 2006 to support an ideology that can cause unnecessary anguish and encourage prejudice. The information they present is misleading and incorrect, and it is particularly troubling that they are distributing it in a way that will confuse school children and their parents."
Francis S. Collins, M.D., Ph.D. https://web.archive.org/web/20110727115017/http://www.nih.gov/about/director/04152010_statement_ACP.htm
Here is another example: http://www.citypages.com/news/university-of-minnesota-professors-research-hijacked-6725473
"The American College of Pediatricians" is a ruse, attempting to fool the public, Becky Chandler. And you fell for it. Ironically, if a child engaged in the kind of deceptive behaviors which are the ACP's stock and trade, the ACP would recommend that the child be given a good spanking. 🙄
Really really old hairbrushes, from over a century ago, tend to be useless for brushing hair because their bristles have gradually disintegrated to little stubs. But as long has the wood hasn't split, their reverse sides are still servicable as spanking implements.
I've heard of family hair brushes being passed down as gifts at baby showers.
@MaryDreamilton I just looked at your profile. You are from the UK. From what I read you are totally correct. In America they were not. UK also used the cane. In America we used a switch. It's all just minor differences
@Strictgram Several years ago, I mentored a young lady through her college career, and her bottom became well acquainted with my Lexan paddle, or, as she called it, “that horrible, evil, awful THING!!!”
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@dimmerdork A college student? Wasn't she a little old to have that done to her???
@marciamom When a specific purpose implement is visible around the house, it sends a message: "Don't misbehave or else you will get this!" That message has an impact.
Kathryn I agree keep the hairbrush just use some wooden stain on it and put a protective coating over it and it will be used on many new generations of kids naughty bare bottoms
I bet that there was some smirking. I would have enjoyed seeing the belt that left its outline, complete with the round red rings where there were holes for the buckle. My mother mentioned it more than once.
Perhaps save it for spacial times .. .. they know they really messed up when they are told tonget the "old hairbrush for this one" .. .. .. At some point you may want one to hand down to each of your children.. .. ..
Most of the "wear" comes from the effects of washing the brush. I know it is more appealing to think that the bare spots on the spanking surface came from direct contact with our bottoms. It sure felt that way. But in most cases the surface changes are derived from repeated contact with hot water (bathbrushes) or with ammonia-laden soapy water (oily hairbrushes).
Your kids might prefer to burn it now, but later when they are grown you might want to pass it on so it can do the same good for your grandchildren as it did for you and your kids.
@Kathryn05 Ask them in a few years when their bottoms no longer have bull's eyes painted on them. Right now they probably can't imagine spanking their own kids, but in about 10 years they may change their minds.