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Have you been in love, how did you experience it

Lots of different definitions out there exploring what love looks and feels like, is it the most powerful human emotion? Does love expire, are we able to love more than one person, what roles do the heart and mind have in love, is it purely physiological, when should we welcome love, when should we refuse, is it possible to live without loving? Would love to read every one's thoughts..

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IWasCallingYaLarry · 26-30, M

Yes and every single time, I've been hurt. So I don't fall for anyone anymore and vowed that I'll never date anybody or get married, never gonna do any of that.

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IWasCallingYaLarry · 26-30, M

@msdistant because I'm ugly and personality doesn't matter to most people. All people care about these days are looks. If I was a ripped hot stud muffin, I'd have no problems at all. But because I'm not, no girl is ever interested.

msdistant · 26-30, F

@IWasCallingYaLarry well since you are certain this is true, maybe it is perfect opportunity to work on your strengths and parts of your personality that appeal to girls, your wrong about being attractive, it's not the most important thing to girls 🤣💖

IWasCallingYaLarry · 26-30, M

@msdistant to most where I live, it is. And I have been working out and taking better care of myself so I can lose more weight. Lost almost 50 lbs since 2018. But I wanna lose more weight.

NaughtyPickle · M

Love is not a emotion it is a way of being. !!

IWasCallingYaLarry · 26-30, M

No, I have not. Any time I ever liked anybody, it was always and I mean always, always 1 sided and my feelings never returned. I plan to stay single forever now. I have no interest in finding love anymore.

Rambler · M

Love isn't a dream or a fantasy, it's love and loyalty to a real person with all their flaws and limits as well as their virtues...

And it's trusting them enough that you have given them the power to hurt you and you love them anyway...

It doesn't have to last forever to have been real while it did last ..

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Rambler · M

@msdistant To me, other forms of non-romantic love --to me, that means within family--are similar except you didn't choose them and they don't end, they are an obligation in a different way. Blood is loyal in other words..

msdistant · 26-30, F

@Rambler very good understanding.. hmm so where does the link to principles/concepts and romantic relationships come in? Are we naturally inclined to form trust and loyalty with those that aren't family

Rambler · M

@msdistant ah... there is the mystery of love

ginnyfromtheblock · 26-30, F

i think love is the choice you make to give yourself fully to someone. it’s not a feeling - that’s infatuation. it’s a big, important word but i do think you can fall in and out of love frequently

msdistant · 26-30, F

@ginnyfromtheblock so you saying love is the act of fusion?

Keepitsimple · 51-55, F

I experienced a series of firsts with him. He could read my mind and made me feel like a princess. He was my best friend and lover.

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msdistant · 26-30, F

@Keepitsimple thanks for explaining your experience I've definitely learned from you

Keepitsimple · 51-55, F

🤗@msdistant

olderuncle944 · 70-79, M

@Keepitsimple yes it does i still think of her often .but she is married now i have has any contact in years .it did leave an open space in my heart and a lot of what if questions

MartikaDuponte1 · 36-40, F

I was...I am...still with the same guy!

The feeling of it? Well, I think it changes over the years - the next big anniversary for us will be our 20th, in a few years time - from sheer butterflies in the tummy/wide awake to more like.....a hot chocolate - smells good, great textures, feels good, gives you that inner glow and makes you feel relaxed...

It's pretty much unconditional...and although we have had some hard periods over our time together....we've each tried to be accepting of each other's failings and life choices, however fleeting some of them may have been. So, some have hurt but it's been a patient kind of waiting until it comes around to the right choice again...

Can I live without him? I have done for the first 17 years of my life...but do I want to live without him? Now, there's a different question.

Love is, I guess, 'getting' someone, understanding them, feeling an affinity with them, having your own language shorthand, of being a separate entity as you are a 'couple' or a 'unit'.

M x

msdistant · 26-30, F

@MartikaDuponte1 great response, would you say though that the emotional link to love and the other person is or can outweigh the logical concepts and principles that mould how love comes about?

MartikaDuponte1 · 36-40, F

@msdistant The emotional link and the rational/irrational mind, I think, and history (how long together) can sway the tide in regards to the more logical things.....you believe what you want to believe, which is where love tries it's best to hold you, regardless of how it may look to outsiders....

Love at first sight? I don't buy that, but [i]lust[/i] at first sight? Indeed! And, of course, from then it can grow and blossom....

M x

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Nobody00 · F

@seeandhear ya...Right. I really wish you to experience much more out of love that exists out there . The "love" you're describing ...I also had. In third grade.

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Magenta · F

Yes I have been. But at this older stage of life, I think I know less about what I thought it was. I do not believe it some instant thing, nor is it temporary nor simply a feeling. It's much deeper and more lasting..

in10RjFox · M

Wow .. it's a deep subject for your questions say that you won't settle for the ordinary as you would only come up with more questions.

So if you really need all answers you need to converse with me.

But in short .. like god, love too is unexplored terrain and heavily confused concept. I can guide in the right path to make you realise but can't exactly express it for it needs realisation by each on their own.

msdistant · 26-30, F

@in10RjFox so would you say that people experience their own personalized version of love?

in10RjFox · M

@msdistant yes.. reason why there is so much of misunderstanding and conflict as there is no consensus. Many do many things in the name of love.

SW-User

.. Has been an instant inexplicable connection.

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SW-User

@msdistant yes... Like from the first interaction I felt it would develop a lot... And so it did..
It's a very very rare but special feeling.

msdistant · 26-30, F

@SW-User so would you say that initial chemistry between you directed a successful love connection

SW-User

@msdistant yes though is like deeper than just chemistry.. 😌

4meAndyou · F

We are able to love more than one person, but perhaps in different ways.

I have a friend with whom I used to live...for a little over a year...and he hurt me terribly. I loved him, so I was willing to accept a life with him still in it...as a distant friend who will not be touching me again.

I care about him today, worry about him, and if and when he dies I will be crushed. He annoys the hell out of me, is probably my worst choice in a man ever, and that is really saying something. 🤣

SW-User

This is almost like asking what’s the meaning of life. lol
I think oftentimes, IMO, love is difficult to explain and put parameters on.

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SW-User

@msdistant for me, rather than try and understand what makes love work and behave the ways that it does.
I’d rather invest the energy into the behavioral love why’s of the person

msdistant · 26-30, F

@SW-User I see what you mean but that sounds like a set up for love disaster 🤣 or success

SW-User

@msdistant let me expound on that
IF I so choose to want to give that energy
lol

saragoodtimes · F

he stole my heart, I gave him my -----

msdistant · 26-30, F

@saragoodtimes you gave him... Your Bible ? 🤣

rfhh1959 · 61-69, M

[b]Does love expire:[/b] There is no expiration date but it die from lack of attention
[b]are we able to love more than one person,[/b]: We do as there are varying types of love if you mean deep romantic love in my opinion it is one person but there can be over time multiple people

PhilDeep · 51-55, M

Yes. I think apart from experiencing it oneself, probably the best way is to see where psychologists are in their research on this. Seemed fairly basic when I was reading psychology, almost twenty years ago now.

msdistant · 26-30, F

@PhilDeep smart idea, im a psychology major but wanted to hear first-hand experience

PhilDeep · 51-55, M

@msdistant I personally think it's not a rational process that can be controlled, though of course how we respond to those sensations is within our control.

Viper · M

Yes, though I don't know how to describe it, especially since it's gone and that particular love won't be found again, so I try to not revisit it that closely. But it was nice, maybe I'll get to experience the feeling again someday.

Nobody00 · F

Many times, some were bad and by now vanished from my heart without a trace. But only one is like resuscitation every time. I don't know whether it's bad or good.

msdistant · 26-30, F

@Nobody00 resuscitation? You mean you keep igniting the flame?

Nobody00 · F

@msdistant vise versa. I feel like I am being
[image] I feel like this everytime. I have been in all kinds of love before but this is the first time

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Ingwe · F

in love, stars in the eyes and knees weak, no never

SStarfish ·

He just crawled into my lap and i was like 😍😍😍🤗😍😍❤️

bijouxbroussard · F

It’s not a set formula and not the same for everyone. How it manifests for one person may be different than for another.

tenente · 100+, M

I wasn't ready to love again - I hope she is safe and happy

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msdistant · 26-30, F

@tenente I can't remember exactly but I know that name n pic, aren't you the hot guy

tenente · 100+, M

@msdistant no you're thinking of @BillyMadisson

msdistant · 26-30, F

@tenente wow you must know me

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