Okay answer honestly please And try not to be rude in your answer.... If you were going to...

Alarm bells...

Don’t marry them, i don’t get ill much, I married someone that had no empathy at all when I had illness and operations, it only gets worse in every area, I didn’t see until years later.
I once had to drive myself to A&E through the night. 🤦🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️

Platinum · M

You supposed to marry someone for your whole life, if you have any doubts , wait .....

jim44444 · 70-79, M

No.

Everyone is capable of nurturing to some degree. They can claim aversion or ignorance but the reality is we can all learn techniques of care.

If they have shown over 4 years that they will not care for you then that is a choice by them. It indicates their true level of concern for you and is probably just one of many indicators that they are totally self-centered and focused only on what they can get from the relationship.

updown2020 · 61-69, M

Well that would depend how it is important to them and whether or not that was a big deal to them . If there was no change after four year well I would have wasted 4 years on that person for nothing. So if you could over look that then that's okay but if you cannot then you have a problem.

meggie · F

No. They get even more dependent on you when they marry you. All you will end up with is a parasite.

rjc36 · 56-60, M

It would have to be more than just that one thing that makes me want to be with them or not be. Maybe that person has a deeper rooted issues that keeps them from helping or maybe they really don't care. You have to take the entire person into consideration not just one thing you like or dislike.

AthrillatheHunt · 51-55, M

If that’s the only flaw yes.

SW-User

Absolutely not

Lee124 · F

Definitely not.

MarineBob · 56-60, M

Probably not

1pebbles · 56-60, F

Emphatic NO

SW-User

Yes. Just cuz someone cant look after me doesnt mean it ain't worth being with them. Just means they've got a flaw.

No one looks after me anyway when I'm sick.