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@HootyTheNightOwl what a horrid thing he said to you!

@foldedunfolding Better yet... he actually proposed to me. Funny how he wanted to marry me and my "horrible body".

I would break it off with him 8 months after we got engaged because he couldn't handle the age gap we had.

@HootyTheNightOwl ugh what an idiot. he lost a good thing, doll.

@foldedunfolding I smile about it now, because he got married a few years later... his wife is even fatter than I am (yes, I'm overweight) - and I admit that I'm no beauty model.

I wonder if he abuses her in the same way that he did me???

I still struggle to see anything attractive about myself - though that's not entirely down to him. My mother did a good job of chipping away at anything I liked about myself, too.

@HootyTheNightOwl aw im sorry to hear. look i am a big big girl myself, but we cant let that get us down. there is something in him that seeks out what he sees as flaws, bc he knows he cant achieve the level of those he truly wants to go after!

@foldedunfolding I'm still a work in progress. My mother has only been dead just over a year at this point.

Had it not been for her, I think I'd have come out of that relationship better than I did... in a lot of ways, I saw him for what he really was and didn't let that get to me as much as it could have done.

I might have missed the red flags that indicate abuse at the time... but I caught them eventually. I know that he was beneath me now and I deserved so much better than him and what he did to me.