Weird thing I noticed at a funeral.

I know for my family, and I know it sounds odd, funerals were almost a family reunion. For a while, it was as if one my uncles or aunts were passing almost every year. The cousins would catch up, and also get to see the other aunts and uncles we hadn't seen for a while.

In a lot of instances, a funeral is both a time of mourning for the family, but also a celebration of the life of the person. Their reverence is in the conversations about how this person touched their life and what they meant to them.

There’s no way I want a bunch of silence and staring at me going on when I die. Laughter and loving on each other is what I expect.

I can understand that. But at my mother’s funeral in February, I saw relatives and family friends whom I hadn’t in decades. We hugged each other, we cried, we sang, those of us who play instruments did. And at the repas later we shared memories of Mom and made sure we had each other’s addresses and numbers so we could stay in touch.

And while it wasn’t quiet and a few times we were even able to laugh, my mother was warm, outgoing, someone who could walk up on stage and with an off the cuff joke have everyone in the room laughing. I think she would’ve been delighted. 🥹

I thought it was mostly a cultural thing but there's a saying, there's no funeral without laughter and no wedding without tears.

Silence is respect!

I know, society has overall become very rude and self centered. People were playing with their mobile phones at the last funeral I attended.

In the last several years, I've been to funerals for both my parents, both my wife's parents, and an aunt & uncle I had grown up with. Each of the deceased had passed away older than 85. Each funeral was a celebration of a long full life; lots of hugging, catching up with cousins etc. As I said of my father's & mother's passing, it makes me really sad that they're gone, but it's not a tragedy at that age. They had really good full long lives, and everybody deserves a life that good.

Maybe the person whose funeral you attended died in the prime of life and his death really was a tragedy. In any case, I'm sorry for your loss.

People have to talk and even laugh sometimes at a funeral. Otherwise, it would be an exhausting and unbearable event.

I remember when my good friend Julia's father died, me and our other close friends attended the funeral to show our respects, and after the funeral, when we all met for the reception, Julia, me, and the rest of our inner circle went outside and got high in the back yard. We told jokes, we laughed, we shared our favorite memories of her departed dad.

It was a huge stress reliever and we all needed it. Julia wasn't offended at all.

Depends what they were saying...if they were nice things and if the departed was listening...

But yes - at least a moment or two for all to zip it would be nice...

{@renkon] i agree that time with the flower over the grave part of the the service should be time for silent reflection grief and memories of the dear departed soul

Maybe you'rr the only one that didnt know anybody

I think it's ok, as long as everyone is respectful to the family. I'd like to think that most of them were talking about the good times they had with the departed.

idk, but i hope people whoop it up at my memorial. i hope there's off-color jokes and inappropriate laughter and some really great music.

The last funeral i went to there was a moment of silence and then everyone went about mingling but speaking at library level.

Thank God
Someone has spoken on this matter.