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What do you do when you get so mad but you can’t show it to the person you’re angry with?

iQuit · F

Wonder why they should not know when they cause in your heart? Sure cool down and don't explode in their face but tell them what went wrong to avoid that type of behavior or else you'll always have to keep the toxic situation like that happen again... But hey not everyone likes to be blunt about things so do whatever will make you happy at the end of it all

TessDun · 36-40, F

@iQuit I’m not in good speaking terms with this person, I stay silent and distant as possible and I’m afraid open communication might just turn into another painful argument. I only have this patience to get by with being civil. But her passive aggressive ways are toxic but she is not smart, she admits it and it is evident in her academic records, so I can settle with the thought that she does not mean what she says or shows. Now I’m a calmer thanks.

bijouxbroussard · F

That’s when my customer service training kicks in. I’m very, very [b]polite[/b]. No small talk, no extra warmth. I just take care of whatever needs to be taken care of.

TessDun · 36-40, F

@bijouxbroussard I hope to learn that skill

NotJamieM · 46-50, M

I usually remove myself from the situation as quickly as possible, then I try and get to the gym and work out my frustrations there. Much better than punching a wall, lol.

TessDun · 36-40, F

@NotJamieM That’s a healthy way of managing it

NotJamieM · 46-50, M

@TessDun it's the best way for me. If I react verbally, I might take it too far, so I just get it out. And my one time of taking a swing at a wall... I do not recommend, lol.

SW-User

🔨 is better than punching 👍@NotJamieM

TheOneyouwerewarnedabout · 41-45, MVIP

Hulk smash

TessDun · 36-40, F

🦾@TheOneyouwerewarnedabout

Elevatorpitches · F

u go crazy and then u seek inner direction and hopefully get it...
heh

mindfulness helps immensely

TessDun · 36-40, F

@Elevatorpitches Yes, looking forward to being in a meditative state after this going-crazy phase

Elevatorpitches · F

@TessDun wishing u much compassion😉💕

4meAndyou · F

I can't hide it when I am really angry. It happened to me at work once, when the IT girl basically implied I was an idiot and had screwed up my own computer. She escalated it, and brought in her supervisor, and the two of them were like hound dogs sniffing at my emotions...one of them said, "You seem really angry", in an accusatory voice. I smiled at her in a pained way, and said, "No, I'm having really bad stomach cramps".

TessDun · 36-40, F

@4meAndyou It’s hard to pretend we are okay when we are not. When they were being rude your reaction was normal. . Also, it’s their job to fix computer-related issues they should have handled it professionally.

4meAndyou · F

@TessDun It made me feel much better, later, when I heard that the IT girl had been reprimanded.

rockstar · 31-35, M

Smile at them. And just keep smiling at them. They’ll know something is wrong.

TessDun · 36-40, F

@rockstar That will make me look like a psychopath but still so hard to fake a smile even in this way

Fluffybull · F

If someone has said or done something that has made you angry why not just say "your remark/behaviour has really upset me". It's not good to repress things. And why should they get away with it?

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Fluffybull · F

@TessDun Is this someone you have to work with?

TessDun · 36-40, F

@Fluffybull No, but she is a family now, still I have a choice not to see her as we live apart, only on special occasions

Fluffybull · F

@TessDun Oh, just avoid her then!

Wayne91 · 31-35, M

Walk away and concentrate on something else that can relax me….

TessDun · 36-40, F

@Wayne91 What about those harsh words you wish you could say

Wayne91 · 31-35, M

@TessDun That would be a bad choice. When I’m angry I don’t think very well and usually go out of control. And that doesn’t end very well. So I prefer silence. Once I’m calmed down I may get my sweet revenge if I feel I wanted it.