Would you rather live and die alone or coexist miserably with someone?

@SW-User That must be a challenging time for you adjusting from being with someone to living alone and feeling lonely, even when surrounded by friends and family. Or worse, sometimes societal or family expectations can make one even more sad. So best to protect our energy and enjoy our own company and loving life.

@SW-User I am like u, alone and afraid and no idea how to change this now and absolutely no one to be with in the real world and I am pretty old, but never a monster can suffice...

I read and I know what settling could do

@SW-User Lol i got downvoted for preferring to be alone than in a bad relationship 🙄

@TessDun Yes, me too. My brother says that he wants to make sure everything will be perfect first.

@Manfredthemanic Perhaps you could ask your parents if you can stay with your brother even for a short vacation. Maybe they will give their permission.

@TessDun My brother is staying with me for a bit here. He said he wants to make sure everything is fine with him before he asks me parents.

@JohnOinger Probably not, I don't know him, he looks yummy though

@TessDun nice

@AwakeningConfession221122 genius hermit?

@TessDun Being lonely was like having a disease. I made efforts to socialize but it was unfulfilling and limited in it quality - most of my peers are raising kids and have no time to spare. Some of them even considered me an additional chore, more or less.

Good question about the introvert - yes I very much am. That isn’t to say I resist social settings but I am cautious, and I find many things draining. So so I did activities I enjoy - I took a language class for instance. I made some new friends there. But still overall, very very lonely. It was hard to get close to anyone I could talk to daily, bounce ideas off of, travel with etc. Plan B is better cause at LEAST i have that.

@DoubleRings Yes I understand that. Even as introverts there’s some kind of need inside to connect and interact. Been on A mostly and can’t imagine yet coexisting with someone as I badly need alone time on a daily basis to function, could be due to past traumas in the household growing up. Good you found what’s working for you with past experience as comparison

@TessDun Yeah not the best set up but it works. Except the times it gets frustrating…. mostly it’s ok. Maybe i’m not even “miserable” but agitated on a regular basis might be accurate.

@MrGoodbar Without or without children

@TessDun without I would be on my own in a heartbeat. With children it depends on how miserable. there is a point

@redredred yes 🙌 nothing compares

@TessDun I'm thinking like if they helped pay bills and you guys split the housework, but slept in separate bedrooms.

@TheLordOfHell Yes but they constantly made you miserable and might shorten your lifespan due to stress

@TessDun Ugh...no fun!

@reflectingmonkey Yes living solo as alone and coexisting as having someone as close as significant other or family sharing same space. No not being alone on earth, I need telco people and internet even if sometimes they suck😅

@Elevatorpitches genius caveman, I love it !!! I almost want to change my user name to genius caveman now, it just represents me so well.

@swirlie at least he would not die alone,,,, but it’s still brutal 😆