What are your thoughts about a man 50 years old dating a 20 year old?

Idc if it's legal, there's [b]always[/b] power dynamics at play. Someone whose around the 18-25 margin are are at a transitional change both biologically and socially. The rational part of the brain isn't even fully developed until 25. That's not to say you can't have relationships with big age gaps but anything beyond 10-12 years makes me feel uncomfortable if you're in your late teens and early 20s. Ultimately, people are entitled to their own decisions and I won't protest against them but there's definitely patterns to note here.

I suspect “sugar daddy”, but they’re consenting adults either way.
Ultimately it’s their business.

Highly inappropriate. You may be considered an adult at 20 by the law, but you're still super inexperienced in life. I think people should date within their own maturity range. I worry about such young people dating someone so much older will be taken advantage of.

My first wife was 23 and had an affair with a divorced man who was 48 and eventually left me and married him. 5 years later he called me crying saying she left him for a younger guy.

It's none of my business. I figure he's well off and she needs a daddy.

I think he is kidding himself that he can compete with 20 year olds for very long 😂

There is nothing wrong with it if they are both happy..

My ex husband 1 hear after we got divorced started dating a woman 29 years younger than him...

He was a very handsome man with a good looking body... she did not at all mind falling in love with him...

Strikes me as a bit creepy but it if makes them happy, go for it.

Heart attack coming 😂

I think it’s gross for both of them imo. Like I’m 52 and what would I have in common with a 20 year old? I would never believe they would be serious about me either. The fact I have kids older than 20 would make me feel like a pedophile

Alright so I have a little experience with this because my sister married a man 30 plus years her senior, not for money either. She met him on experience project and did a surprise move to a different country and married him to stay there. We haven’t seen her for years, she’s never met my kids etc. From that experience I would say that it shouldn’t be a problem if both are happy. We were more upset that he flew over and hid away on the evening she was leaving, so they left without telling anyone or saying goodbye for no reason. In a practical sense he is apparently very fit and healthy for his age, has a job, she doesn’t really want kids etc etc. They seem happy and so it’s not really any of my business but I can’t say I liked it and I still feel a bit weird about it. A mixed bag of emotions really.

Unsettling.

as long as the person thats more mature in the relationship understands and respects the vulnerability that comes with being young, instead of exploiting it ,i dont really oppose it . but thats rare ,subconsciously most will manipulate that

He's a lucky guy. I'm 71 and dating a woman who is 35. We are very happy.

He has self esteem issues and she needs money.

Meh. I was into 70-year-olds when I was 20.

He’s a got a fetish for young girls. They are hardly women at that age and she’s probably banging him to get the things she wants.

They can do what makes them happy. Though I'm 99% sure it's money related.

that's probably a sugar daddy because the guy is old enough to be the 20 year olds father

i think it’s odd, but i’m not one to judge others for things that don’t have anything to do with me.

Poor girl - going to bed at night and feeling old age creeping up on her... 😔

I don't have much care about that. Love is as Love does.

He'll die and she'll still be in the prime of her life.. so As long as it's not abusive or manipulate. If it comes from a mutual and genuine place. It's fine.

Not my business...

Not for me to judge

Not my circus...

{@tosirwithlove] personally and probably like others would say the age gap really but if they can breach that well fair enough happiness comes in many forms i guess

As long as both of them are getting their needs met and neither is manipulating the other emotionally.
Where's the problem.
It's between them, not me.

Not a good idea. But if they are both over 18, it's their business. Relationships can be difficult enough without a 30 year age gap.

My niece married a man 30 years older than herself. When I questioned this situation right before they got married, she said they'd talked it over and they didn't think it would be a problem. They're divorced now. And their first big fight was over the Internet. He saw no reason to have it in his home. She insisted it was essential.

They are both above the age of consent . So as long as they are both, my thoughts are actually of no relevance.
😉

I've been that 20 year old

Creepsville. I guess if his maturity level was juvenile it could work

As long as it is not breaking someone’s heart.

Strange in my opinion.
Good for him 🤷‍♂️ But they are both adults!!

I thought about it over the years-. It's normal in my social circle, and without it there won't be any more children from any of the men-. So I'm not in the family any more because they know I'd comment. My brother is sixty but I never will see even a picture of his five year old or his twenty five year old wife.

good idea bloke just as to remember the blue pill

Not my bed, not my business.

Someone is using or taking advantage of the other, or both each other.

That's just on average, I'm sure there are exceptions, though I haven't heard of one.

When I was 19 I was asked out to dinner by my manager, who was probably in his mid-fifties, and married. I didn't want to offend him, so I went, but I made sure he understood in advance that I don't fool around with married men. He was actually very polite.

Lucky guy, assume he is rich

As long as it's mutually consensual then others should stay out of it!

It's like the sexuality issue. No one has the right to judge others on that issue either.

My half brother and I don't get along. Yet not because of his 18 year younger wife.

Lots of young women are turning to older men. It seems that men their age are too busy playing games or not pulling up their pants. Older men likely know a lot more about pleasing her and making her feel safe, respected, and desired.

To each their own??

I hope I can be him one day 😋

His last hurrah

If he is in very good physical condition, she is happy with him, he is not going after an ugly fat but because he can't get anything better and she the same..................then it should be OK and really isn't any body else's business but their own.

Not my business

I don’t mind it

Why not