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How do I raise my self-esteem?

I'm having a huge trouble dealing with my self-esteem rn. I feel like I can't do anything right and that I'll amount to nothing. Rationally irl I'm an achiever and I do a lot of things but deep down I feel so incompetent. It's too suffocating right now, any wanna talk about that?
BlueVeins · 22-25
I don't really know... I think it takes a lot of love from some close friends, and a lot of self-care. It takes opening up about your problems and your experiences and allowing yourself to be vulnerable. Sometimes, the damage is already done and there's nothing you can do, but at least it'll feel okay.
JustChill · 26-30, F
@BlueVeins I've been thinking of that, actually. I'll do it after the quarantine is over. Thank you for suggesting it.
BlueVeins · 22-25
@JustChill No problem. Stay safe, friend. 🧠
JustChill · 26-30, F
@BlueVeins Thanks man, you too. 🤗
Psycho · 26-30, M
Do some team work course that has little responsibility attached to it and learn to stay on top of your thoughts and make sure you are thinking otherwise the subconscious takes over which enforces past behaviour and feelings.
JustChill · 26-30, F
@Psycho I actually did not grasp the concept of team exercise courses, I can't meet anyone I'm in quarantine.
I'm glad you came through your anxieties unscathed. :)
Psycho · 26-30, M
@JustChill For now there's not much you can do in that way but it's an easy first step.

The main principle is thought control to make it suit your aims and it can be applied to anything.

Negative shitty thoughts about not being good enough are rubbish, life isn't a rat race for everyone and that's the way you need to think about it.

No excuses, no self loathing that's embarrassing not you but that bad thought process.
JustChill · 26-30, F
@Psycho I know, I know. But thanks for sharing your thoughts.
YoungPoet345 · 26-30, F
I have felt like that before. But it will pass. Try to let those thoughts go and focus on the present moment. Try some breathing and mindfulness. And another thing you can try is asking yourself how you would talk to a friend. If you wouldn’t say it to a friend, you shouldn’t say it to you. You deserve to be treated like a friend. What would you tell him or her in your situation?
JustChill · 26-30, F
@YoungPoet345 Makes sense you know. I'm telling myself things I won't tell a friend in a million years. I'll heed that advice, thanks for giving it. Feel free to give more.
Peppa · 31-35, F
I don't want yo sound patronising but they say board games are really good for helping with feeling a sense of achievement. But games like chess, puzzles.
Also tackling things you've been putting off.
DIY tasks.
Trying a new thing like making playdough or slime.
I really don't know what will work for you but I think that maybe trying something
JustChill · 26-30, F
@Peppa Thank you. I will heed this advice and do some of the activities. Looks like a good idea.
MrBrownstone · 46-50, M
Focus on what you do right and accept no one is perfect. Find people that support you.
JustChill · 26-30, F
@MrBrownstone Easier said than done. But I'm doing my best.
MrBrownstone · 46-50, M
@JustChill Agreed. Understand people that put you down only do that to make themselves feel better
JustChill · 26-30, F
@MrBrownstone When your self esteem is established you don't really need to understand it because it's too obvious. But right now it's hard to think this way and not to be affected. I am concerned right now because it's been going for too long and I have to rebuild it.
justanothername · 51-55, M
Don’t measure yourself and stay off internet chat sites. You will only ever be depressed
JustChill · 26-30, F
@justanothername I don't use them a lot, but if anything it makes me distracted and I enjoy it.
You just have to cut out the negative people in your life. For starters.
JustChill · 26-30, F
@Vivaci Well it's not easy when the negative person is living within your head.
justanothername · 51-55, M
Don’t measure yourself against other people
JustChill · 26-30, F
@justanothername Makes sense. Though I can't help it sometimes. "Comparison is the thief of joy" they said, but how is it instilled so deeply within us and refuses to wiggle out of place?
Nika2002 · 22-25, F
Give yourself compliments
JustChill · 26-30, F
@Nika2002 I'm doing that already. It helps a little bit. Thanks. :)
justanothername · 51-55, M
What hobbies do you have?
HannibalMontanimal · 26-30, M
Asianpersuasion · 36-40, M
#getnaked?

 
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