Why do you lament about your miserable lives here instead of doing something to change them?

What an absolutely presumptious statement. Some people come here because they have no one else to talk to, absolutely nowhere else to go. They vent out their frustrations because like minded people can relate to them. How do you know whether they are doing something about it or not ? It’s not your place to generalize. In doing so, you have managed to demonstrate a level of arrogance parallel to none.

Because some of us have busted our asses trying to find a way to change our situations but nothing is working. We are in tough situations and dont have anyone. Dont judge, or else one day you might be in this exact predicament.

It's better to light one candle than complain about the darkness.

Doing something, anything, about your troubles gets you closer to an answer. I figure that venting on here does the soul at least some good to let it out and vent. But if a person does Nothing, they can expect Nothing.


Even little kids instinctively know and act on this basic tenet.

Some of us have tried a number of things to improve our lives but haven't yet found anything that works. Sometimes we get frustrated and discouraged and need a little support, or a place to vent a little. And in times of confusion, we sometimes need to bounce some things off other people, who can see things a little more clearly because they are able to be more objective, so we can actually understand what's going on. Because we first need to see the truth of what's actually happening before we can decide what to do about it.

And yes, I include myself, especially in that last bit. I think I've finally reached the point where I'm done venting, or "lamenting" as you say, and I'm ready to do something about it. But I had to work through a lot of confusion and other stuff to get there.

And sometimes, even when we know that crying doesn't really help things, it still hurts. Just picture a kid who has fallen and skinned his/her knees. The kid knows that crying won't make the wound heal any faster, but they still need to cry, at least for a bit. Adults have their moments when they need to do this too.

I hope that helps.

Dat username lol

You're doing the same thing. You are whining about whining except that you choose for them to be your problem.

What's the fun in that? Seriously though I think some are seriously victims, many are looking for support, quite likely a few who are lonely, others probably conceited, some are martyrs, some have learned helplessness, others might just be bored, etc.

I have a great life, wonderful wife, children and grandkids, I am helping society as a financial counsellor. i assist with my ladies, mothers of domestic violence get rid of personal debt

Im a loser incapable of change.

No one is going to get me committed if I talk about my lust for death here. No one cares.

Gees are you on drugs.