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Graylight · 51-55, F
Victims tend to be identifiable, yes. And previous victimization increases the likelihood of future victimization until learned helplessness creates a loop.
You can project a different persona to the world, and it starts with confidence and boundaries.
You can project a different persona to the world, and it starts with confidence and boundaries.

SW-User
Predators look for weakness, empaths.
Oops typos lol 😂
Oops typos lol 😂
WintaTheAngle · 41-45, M
No is the short answer.
One of my first serious girlfriends had been a victim years before I’d met her, and I had no idea until I was told years later. To be fair I was only 19 and not very worldly when it came to these things.
One of my first serious girlfriends had been a victim years before I’d met her, and I had no idea until I was told years later. To be fair I was only 19 and not very worldly when it came to these things.

SW-User
It is sad, but I think people can sense weakness and use that against them. It won't be unique to here, but definitely there will be some who take advantage.
Daiffanyi · 46-50, M
For me yes I can sense it. It has over time educated me on how to help heal the wounded. And there are a lot of women that have been wounded in this ugly world...I apologize for your harm...
Scribbles · 36-40, F
No.
But predatory men either search for, manipulate, or create opportunities to sexually assault others. So it's always good to watch out for yourself and give'em no quarter.
Generally manipulating others isn't new to people like that. They've treated other people as guinea pigs to test small manipulations and offenses against until they build up to worse and worse offenses.
They will watch to see if they think you have a personality or lack of strength against them and whatever tools/manpower they have that will let them leave with out serious injury or a prison sentence. They will also watch to see if bystanders will let them assault or harass or drug someone. They will always have a ready excuse for their behavior or try to gaslight you or blame you.
But predatory men either search for, manipulate, or create opportunities to sexually assault others. So it's always good to watch out for yourself and give'em no quarter.
Generally manipulating others isn't new to people like that. They've treated other people as guinea pigs to test small manipulations and offenses against until they build up to worse and worse offenses.
They will watch to see if they think you have a personality or lack of strength against them and whatever tools/manpower they have that will let them leave with out serious injury or a prison sentence. They will also watch to see if bystanders will let them assault or harass or drug someone. They will always have a ready excuse for their behavior or try to gaslight you or blame you.
Barny52 · 61-69, M
Assaulted no, weak and easy yes
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SW-User
@Barny52 Okay, the short answer somehow read to me, you are blaming them.
Barny52 · 61-69, M
@SW-User no no no that’s not what I was saying don’t believe that for a second ! Sorry if you read it that way

SW-User
@Barny52 It's okay, how I read something is mine. I take you meant well
DrSunnyTheSkeptic · 26-30, M
Um... I don't think so? I mean if a guy gets along with a girl and it starts turning into something bigger than friendship but the girl backs off when things get sexual that would be a red flag givaway.

SW-User
Sense that a woman was sexually assaulted? No.
Sense insecurity, low selfesteem and stuff like that? Yeah.
Sense insecurity, low selfesteem and stuff like that? Yeah.
CharlesRomsey · 61-69, M
I did some voluntary work in a nearby city with Street Pastors. I had to stop because I couldn't handle the trauma. The breaking point was helping a young girl who had her drink spiked: she had lost her panties, she was bleeding from her vagina and her anus. She couldn't remember what had happened. Sometimes, I hate men.