I think its rude to casually ask people how they're doing.

There is no question that in English speaking countries it is considered polite to ask, polite, nothing more.
The polite answer is not to tell the truth but to say "very well, thank you, and you?"
They will politely tell you they are OK too, and then the real conversation begins - depending on the nature and purpose of the meeting.
It's done between people who have just met or do not know each other well.

It is assumed that the question cannot be a reminder, because no sane person is ever unaware of how they are. It's not exactly something one can forget.

Telling the truth about one's feelings is reserved for genuine friends, doctors, psychologists - and in any situation in which telling it matters.

One might find some truth here, where people can hide behind their anonymity. But just as often it's full of tricksters and pranksters - as if there was a god called Loki running riot.

Given the most casual, informal greeting in my native tongue essentially translates to "Greetings; how are you?" in English, and it is mainly used to greet people we don't necessarily know, I disagree entirely.

Then again, I just mentioned the contextual clause exception too; for those I do know, I would not use that greeting, and especially not for those I am close to. Since English is a conlang whose contextual enforcement is lax as fuck, I would definitely understand if one were to see my native tongue's most casual and informal greeting as rude, but ask yourself this:

What if you didn't know English at all?

I think its ok.. or i ask hows is your day so far?

While I've never considered people doing that rude, I do get what you're saying.

It's not rude when someone truly cares. They mean no harm.

It can be awkward and when I was working with people in very sensitive circumstances I made it a point not to ask that. I tried to start with something like, 'Hi, it's good to see you.' Or 'Morning, I wonder what today will bring?' Never even 'Good Morning' lest that be a trigger. Only if I had time would I ask, 'How are you...really?' out of respect.

I think 90% of the time.... people don’t even care when they ask.

Thankfully... my friends know I don’t care and when I say “are you alright?” I actually mean it.

I understand. A lot of people feel the way you do. But if you can look at it another way, it might make it easier to accept. It's a pleasantry, that's all. It's usually done with a smile and a way of acknowledging another human being. Some people need that little bit of positive social connection.

Perhaps ask them, "Do you really want to know?" I think there are times we assume people don't want to know. I know I do and I contemplate in my head whether or I not I tell them how I am. "I'm fine" or "I'm ok" usually wins. I'm sure there are those who would listen if I told them.

I don't see it as rude nor dismissing, but am from a diffrent generation. If someone let's me know they don't care for that greeting, I certainly wouldn't use it and say a hello or another general greeting.
Nobody can read a mind and I don't believe most people's intent is to make you remember your problems as they would have no idea what they are unless you told them.


There are two edges to the sword, I believe, and sometimes spilling out too much about personal problems and monopolizing everything conversation with "a woe is me" gets to be a bit tiresome as well... not at all indicating this is what you meant to imply.
Just an observation.

Yep, I only ask if I care.

There’s nothing rude about being courteous and kind . Theres always someone that will take offense no matter what . Let ‘em , who cares?

The definition of bad manners: When you politely ask someone how they are, they have the nerve to actually tell you!! 🤦‍♀️
-Oscar Wilde...

Considering all the things people have said to me that are actually rude, I’m not ready to take offense at someone simply asking me how I’m doing. It’s too easy for me to say “fine” and keep moving.

How are you doing? Really?

It is rather superficial, yet it is a common courtesy. It is that or talk about the weather.

Yes, I believe it is rude if you're not willing to listen. Don't ask that question.

How about in the store with the HAVE A GOOD ONE..as if they are in on your private party plans. And then you are supposed to agree..that they are in on your private party plans by smiling pleasantly as if that remark meant anything...

when they could just as well say, "thank you for your patronage, see you again I hope."

People love talking about their problems. Thats why i dont ask.

What about ....how are you?

Who are you doing?

once upon a time it was not rude to hug people and ask them are you fine, not anymore

How ya doing?