I think its rude to casually ask people how they're doing.

It seems to be considered common courtesy but I don't think it should be. Its rude to casually remind people of all their problems if you don't want to stick around to hear about them.

Its different if they actually care about your response, but most of the time you have to lie through your teeth to give a expected response of "good, how are you?" And most of the time they don't even answer because they're already walking away.

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SW-User

I understand. A lot of people feel the way you do. But if you can look at it another way, it might make it easier to accept. It's a pleasantry, that's all. It's usually done with a smile and a way of acknowledging another human being. Some people need that little bit of positive social connection.

coffeedimplez · 26-30, F

@SW-User I understand. And most people think its rude not to ask. But I just think there are other ways of being pleasant.

SW-User

@coffeedimplez True. But it's hard for people to change what's become the acceptable norm. I usually always complement a person on something they're wearing. Sometimes a compliment can make all the difference in a person's day. It makes ME feel good to see someone's face suddenly start beaming.

coffeedimplez · 26-30, F

@SW-User Yeah that's a great feeling! I know its really hard to change norms. This will most likely continue to be the norm. But if the norm were to change it would start with someone presenting a different point of view to consider. There are much bigger problems in the world though than kind people casually asking how someone's doing