I think its rude to casually ask people how they're doing.

It seems to be considered common courtesy but I don't think it should be. Its rude to casually remind people of all their problems if you don't want to stick around to hear about them.

Its different if they actually care about your response, but most of the time you have to lie through your teeth to give a expected response of "good, how are you?" And most of the time they don't even answer because they're already walking away.

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SW-User

I don't see it as rude nor dismissing, but am from a diffrent generation. If someone let's me know they don't care for that greeting, I certainly wouldn't use it and say a hello or another general greeting.
Nobody can read a mind and I don't believe most people's intent is to make you remember your problems as they would have no idea what they are unless you told them.

There are two edges to the sword, I believe, and sometimes spilling out too much about personal problems and monopolizing everything conversation with "a woe is me" gets to be a bit tiresome as well... not at all indicating this is what you meant to imply.
Just an observation.

coffeedimplez · 26-30, F

@SW-User About the monopolizing. That's very true! Which is why we lie. To be honest I never believe the people intends to remind you of your issues, but that's the effect of it. I'm never offended by the people asking because I know they're not trying to be rude. But I think the that it shouldn't be a norm to ask that as a casual question.

SW-User

@coffeedimplez I can see your point.