I am so tired but I don't think it is just work. It is yesterday's talk. I met someone who had similar childhood experiences to mine

And we sort of went on rant trauma dumping about Islamists, the chaos of war, the torture, the missing people, names, places, grudges...

Ahhh

Maybe I did need to remember some of these things but perhaps we should have kept some things for a later time.

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SinlessOnslaught · M

You're so graceful in the way you accept your hardships.

Please get some rest when you can.

Miram · 31-35, F

@SinlessOnslaught love you

SinlessOnslaught · M

@Miram I love you too

Younameit · F

Those conversations can be draining but healing. I try to avoid them as much as I can, but when you find someone who can relate and empathize, and most importantly; listen, it’s truly a blessing.

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Younameit · F

@Miram I’m so sorry 🫂

Miram · 31-35, F

@Younameit Hugs sent your way

SinlessOnslaught · M

@Miram You've been through so much yourself and you still think about others. 🫂

PiecingBabyFaceTogether · 31-35, M

🫂 Sometimes those conversations can be healing but I know that after effect of it. Makes you feel exposed and vulnerable. It's a process.

Miram · 31-35, F

@PiecingBabyFaceTogether

I don't think they are healing to be honest. They are unresolved.

There are times when I do see individual "healing" as shortcut , a cop out..from real healing. Because the second would require collective involvement.

I think we hold unto perceptions of healing when it comes to certain extreme horrors because to make peace with the darkness of the world and the fact that much suffering is unresolved is far more difficult as a journey.

To look at things as they are. And grieve them as they are..while at the same time choosing to exist.

It is challenging because it is absurd.

There is a type of complexity difficult to describe, riddled with conflict, observing an act of brutality as a single loop in a sequence of events.. a chain within a chain.

Complexity in looking at (some) perpetrators and realizing how victimhood itself plays into forming the consequences. Their own victimhood, their own inner narratives..the why and the how and what comes to be.

And then how it translates to other narratives.

And then how it translates (ed) into yours.

AngelUnforgiven · 51-55, F

It's good to talk about it. And trauma bonding makes us feel less alone in what we are going through. You have to decompress as much as you can.

Miram · 31-35, F

@AngelUnforgiven still think it was the wrong timing.

Friday and Saturday I work with very minimal rest. These conversations diminish my ability to function with a healthy amount of detachment.

Sherlock · 26-30, F

That's sounds terrifying to remember. I feel I'd ignore people who reminded me of such things

Tumbleweed · F

🫂

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