I am so tired but I don't think it is just work. It is yesterday's talk. I met someone who had similar childhood experiences to mine

And we sort of went on rant trauma dumping about Islamists, the chaos of war, the torture, the missing people, names, places, grudges...

Ahhh

Maybe I did need to remember some of these things but perhaps we should have kept some things for a later time.

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PiecingBabyFaceTogether · 31-35, M

🫂 Sometimes those conversations can be healing but I know that after effect of it. Makes you feel exposed and vulnerable. It's a process.

Miram · 31-35, F

@PiecingBabyFaceTogether

I don't think they are healing to be honest. They are unresolved.

There are times when I do see individual "healing" as shortcut , a cop out..from real healing. Because the second would require collective involvement.

I think we hold unto perceptions of healing when it comes to certain extreme horrors because to make peace with the darkness of the world and the fact that much suffering is unresolved is far more difficult as a journey.

To look at things as they are. And grieve them as they are..while at the same time choosing to exist.

It is challenging because it is absurd.

There is a type of complexity difficult to describe, riddled with conflict, observing an act of brutality as a single loop in a sequence of events.. a chain within a chain.

Complexity in looking at (some) perpetrators and realizing how victimhood itself plays into forming the consequences. Their own victimhood, their own inner narratives..the why and the how and what comes to be.

And then how it translates to other narratives.

And then how it translates (ed) into yours.