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Do you sometimes feel guilt....

Over you feel you could have visited or spent more time with an ailing loved one? Or one who has passed?

I visited my dad twice a week , when he first went into a nursing home. But occasionally he'd be snippy with me over minor things, and my sister said, "he hasn't asked to talk to me in months and he never cared our whole life about our welfare" ..which is partly true😕 I thought why am I doing it twice a week when he treats me like this , and neglected me many years?? So I started to visit once a week.

I was always kind, and brought him treats. But once a week seemed ok to me. But fast forward to now. He has just weeks to live. He's been diagnosed with an aggressive rapid cancer 🙁 I'm going more often now and I get small twinges of guilt that I should have visited a bit more last year when he was ok.
Have you felt that before?
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Cigarguy · 41-45, M
Yes I struggle with this alot. My mother is not doing well but I just can't go see her. The trauma of what she did to me for so many years is something I can't let go. But there is a small part of me that feels like I should go see her.