What makes you feel the most unsecured about your relationship.
What makes you most vulnerable in your relationship? Or when do you feel the most vulnerable in your relationship?
46-50, M
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DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F
In the relationship I just recently ended, what made me feel the most insecure was his absolute disinterest in me. He pretty much ignored me unless he wanted to complain to me about something. He only had sex with me when he was drunk. He put literally everyone in his life above me.
I decided I'd be better off single.
I decided I'd be better off single.
Fieldmaster · 46-50, M
@DearAmbellina2113 WOW, i am sorry to hear that, how long were you two together for?
So absolutely no affection or intimacy while sober? Did you ever express your frustration to him? Why ignore you to such level and still be with you? What was he gaining from that relationship?
So absolutely no affection or intimacy while sober? Did you ever express your frustration to him? Why ignore you to such level and still be with you? What was he gaining from that relationship?
DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F
@Fieldmaster together for 4 years. He would hug me like a friend while sober, but nothing romantic til he was drunk. I expressed my frustration many times, leading to many arguments. He never changed. I have no idea why he wanted to stay with me that long when he clearly didn't love me.
Fieldmaster · 46-50, M
@DearAmbellina2113 something is messed up, the guy has to tell, like wtf, when in the relationship this started happening?
I am afraid of drunk sex, i felt it was sort of meaningless, i suppose, for some this when they feel good, which I don't get it when you can't even remember what happened.
I am afraid of drunk sex, i felt it was sort of meaningless, i suppose, for some this when they feel good, which I don't get it when you can't even remember what happened.
DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F
@Fieldmaster it started around the third year we were together.
Fieldmaster · 46-50, M
@DearAmbellina2113 I see.
Did you like or enjoy sex when he was drunk? I mean were you okay with that level of intimacy?
Did you like or enjoy sex when he was drunk? I mean were you okay with that level of intimacy?
DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F
@Fieldmaster not really but it was better than nothing.
Fieldmaster · 46-50, M
@DearAmbellina2113 That's fair, true.
He clearly was not gaining any financial benefit from the relationship?
I think many couple stay in sexless relationship for various other reasons.
However ignoring the other person and or putting others needs always above yours is just crazy/insulting.
I thinking ignoring intkmacy/sexual needs of your partner is also insluting as what is the point of that relationship where there is no affection, intimacy or romance? I mean we could get lots friends who will put us above others helpout in life, no?
He clearly was not gaining any financial benefit from the relationship?
I think many couple stay in sexless relationship for various other reasons.
However ignoring the other person and or putting others needs always above yours is just crazy/insulting.
I thinking ignoring intkmacy/sexual needs of your partner is also insluting as what is the point of that relationship where there is no affection, intimacy or romance? I mean we could get lots friends who will put us above others helpout in life, no?