Getting hurt feelings

My cousin that I rarely get to see ( I’m 69, she is 73) told me at a recent get together that she wanted me to loose weight. The last time I saw her about 6-7 years ago, she told me the same thing. It hurt my feelings and pissed me off. I would NEVER say that to anyone. Am I wrong to feel this way? There are things I could have said to her, but I didn’t think it was a good idea. I love her and don’t want to lose her.

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AngelUnforgiven · 51-55, F

I keep saying this. It's not what you say it's how you say it. I wish people would realize this more. It's not hard to open the door by saying, I am concerned for your health. Then that leaves the ball in your court to answer however you see fit and then a person can read the room from there. Kindness is free and does not cost you anything.

Mbingh01 · 61-69, F

@AngelUnforgiven she said it very nicely, but it still hurt. I could’ve said I was worried about her drinking, but I didn’t.

AngelUnforgiven · 51-55, F

@Mbingh01 it's not about saying it nicely or even in a mean way it's about saying it in a concerned way in a way that makes you feel that the person is there to help. You should not feel hurt right now. I tell people all the time if you feel worse after talking to me for any reason then I have failed and your breath and your words were wasted on me.