Should I pay my narcissist brother back?

I stole from him because my life is not going well, and I am currently struggling so hard to pay my medical/pet bills. I regret it, and it's my first time ever stealing from someone. He stole big money from my parents in the past, borrowed money from random people but never paid anyone back, and he got away with it coz "he's family, and their son". Now he's angry that it happened to him and claims I stole an amount bigger than what I actually stole, which I have proof that he's wrong. For anyone who don't know, everyone in my family are narcissists, and I live with them, and I'm currently being condemned, and forced to pay that amount. I'm the family scapegoat, and it's so unfair that were both treated so differently. Should I or shouldn't?

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4meAndyou · F

You must write him an IOU, and when you have the money, pay him back the actual amount that you stole from him. WITH the IOU, write a short note of apology, explaining why you needed the money so desperately.

Ignore his lies about the amount. He is not a good person because he steals regularly.

I advise you NOT to use a cretin as a role model.

bittersweethermit · 36-40, F

@4meAndyou I decided to pay him back once I get a job. I already told them plenty of times why I stole in the first place, but they can't accept it since they all have this black and white thinking. I stole but I know in myself that I'm not like him. I'm just going to ignore them once I've paid the right amount and move on.