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Being called sir

So, hey I just wanted to share something.
I'm a girl, with short hair and I'm often mistaken for a boy, called sir or whatever.
And I think it doesn't bother me that much when I'm alone, but when I'm with a friend or family member they usually are more embarassed that I am and correct the person right away, or they just look at me and laught, make fun of me. And thats when it bothers me the most.
So I dont know how to react or what to say.
Anyone in thug situation ?
Tell your people to ctfo since they're the cause of the embarrassment. As someone who also tends to look fairly androgenous I understand.
Wraithorn · 51-55, M
I'm not sure what to say except that when people laugh inappropriately it is usually because they feel uncomfortable with the situation they are dealing with.

Possibly they make fun of you in order to reassure their own minds that you are not a threat to them or their mental well being which feels threatened by you being "different".

It could be a sign that their minds are weak or immature or maybe you simply caught them totally off guard and laughter is their way of normalizing the situation again.

Their inappropriate laughter shows a failure in their minds and not in yours. I think your lesson is maybe to learn to be understanding of how uncomfortable you make certain people feel. Either way whenever this happens you will learn something and so will they.
Do you like your presentation? Are you comfortable with their mistakes? Are you uncomfortable with people correcting them for you?

Just be honest I each case. Laugh it off or tell them you like your boy side.
hunkalove · 61-69, M
I used to work in retail with a woman who looked like a guy. One evening a boy, about 10, walked up and asked her a question, beginning with, "Excuse me, sir." When she answered him with a very female voice, his eyes got big and he turned around and ran. And I mean ran! I tried not to laugh, but I did.
1961dave · 61-69, M
Obviously by it happening so much, it's gonna happen unless you make it more obvious that you're a woman.
Pokenams · 26-30, F
Well, how?
1961dave · 61-69, M
@Pokenams: Well more girly hair would help!
Well when I still had long hair I was mistaken for a woman before. I found it amusing because they would start panicking the minute I would turn around. :)
PTCdresser57 · 61-69, M
Dress more feminine from the neck down is a solution.
Hey! I'm surprised you'd say that! Though it might be our desire. She is probably perfectly ok with not dressing girly.
PTCdresser57 · 61-69, M
True Joanie...maybe just some make up?
@PTCdresser57: we don't know if that's her style! Can't assume just because she is female she has to be our definition of anything "girly"! Bondsona has the right attitude . Telling her friends that she does or doesn't want them to explain is the first step.
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I don't think she minds her presentation as it is, I think she minds others reactions to others reactions. Laughing with them would be a good way to ease any embarrassment. But her friends shouldn't be embarrassing her. They should be supportive. The best way for friends to be supportive is to know her truth. And ignore the insident.
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SW-User
Sarcasm works best in situations like that.
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