@EnjoyingLife I understand my condolences

although if you say "I don't need you I'm with you 'cause love you" or something like that, I think that'd take the sting out of it & maybe make 'em feel better than they would have if you said nothing.

@drymer Maybe a person needs to feel wanted. ;-) Otherwise a relationship has no basis or is one-way only with no requitement.

@drymer I agree with what you said and at 1 time in my life I was a hopeless romantic and I would have agreed with preferring to say that I needed my husband but unfortunately life dealt me situations beyond my control and people in my life made decisions that forced me to confront the reality that I do not need a man

@zonavar68 But "wanted" is different than "needed". I may want chocolate ice cream but I don't need it. The fact that I don't need chocolate ice cream doesn't mean I don't love it. The same logic can be applied to human relationships. Need/love... Very different things...

@MsAlaineEYes This is about how I feel about women after being jilted and jaded and made to feel so unworthy and sub-standard as part of a so-called loving couple. It's a pointless exercise to need or want a relationship any more so I don't really bother trying to notice anyone or be noticed by anyone.

@ginnyfromtheblock Many people have a romanticized idea of need which I too hold onto somewhat especially considering my religious upbringing.
But in that moment I was speaking in a purepragmatic sense and they all shamed me telling me that I had toxic mindset.

@zonavar68 no idea who that is...

@SW-User https://www.google.com/search?q=clingy+girlfriend+meme

@zonavar68 not all girlfriends are like that. My boyfriend is just a very much wanted part of my life.

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@Redstar My take exactly. My husband dosen't help me financially and never has. He hasn't worked in 8 years. He is occasionally handy around our property and I appreciate it and I know that men are more than finances but I've done everything solo so thats what I meant.

@zonavar68 Well I'm not sure exactly what that has to do with my question because I would never want to harm my husband and I am happy with him but I'm sorry you had to go through that

@MasterofNone You perhaps are correct

@REMsleep you don't have a toxic mindset though. Just making sure. On the contrary, the ones accusing of it may have.

@PepsiColaP ok point taken

@dirge I don't know if it would feel great to hear it but if he had led the life that I have I honestly wouldn't have any choice but to accept it as the truth

@dirge It would ignite the Feminazi brigade into Antifa-like Pro-Trump outrage

@zonavar68 You seem to have your own beef against feminists or something. Im more of a balanced person

@Tracos I have first-hand experience of feeling 'used' by my ex because she 'needed' me (to get a child that she desperately wanted) but in reality never 'wanted' me.

@zonavar68 I want to say that your situation sounds very hurtful and terrible but her behaviour was bad no matter what her beliefs were it's not OK to use someone especially not to bring a child into this world and it has nothing to do with women who might feel that they don't need a man

@REMsleep Biological 'clock' drives a lot of strange thinking and decision-making amongst humans.

@REMsleep Nobody with any intelligence does. But unfortunately that particular stereotype is one of the many ways racism works against us, even intra-racially, as it’s the excuse some black men have given for looking elsewhere.

Absolutely 🙏@REMsleep

Heartbreaking but you are absolutely right. And society will never see it for what it is. Black women extremely caring and and giving but you can only give so much when all people do is take.

@REMsleep

@Psycho no problem

@REMsleep If the idea is no problem then no it's not an insult.

@Eclipsed how

Wow you've got it all wrong for my side. I was making the statement in acknowledgment that I have achieved a lot and I've had to do it by myself for the most part and so I don't see how I could say that I needed a man because I had to do everything without one so that's what I was referring to was more or less. Getting somewhere in life and my achievements it was no slight towards men who are very equally necessary in societies overall.
Some women need a man to survive in the world or some people think that they do.