Nagisu · 36-40, F
I'd get worried because he's either not showing his true self to manipulate me or because he's not comfortable enough with me do to so. Either way it's doomed. A nice balance is better.
HijabaDabbaDoo · F
Number5 · 26-30, M
@HijabaDabbaDoo oh yeab too many compliments aint good
The only thing that matters is honesty and mutual respect and good will.
If someone is sweet and it's a ruse for seduction, then it's as disgusting as saccharin.
If someone is always a yes-person, always people-pleasing and not being honest, and doesn't operate from a sense of balanced equality, they are not going to be successful in relationships.
Equally, someone at the other extreme who is inconsiderate and domineering will be just as unsuccessful.
Both types will end up rejected.
If someone is sweet and it's a ruse for seduction, then it's as disgusting as saccharin.
If someone is always a yes-person, always people-pleasing and not being honest, and doesn't operate from a sense of balanced equality, they are not going to be successful in relationships.
Equally, someone at the other extreme who is inconsiderate and domineering will be just as unsuccessful.
Both types will end up rejected.
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YoungPoet345 · 26-30, F
@Number5 yup. I have genuinely wanted to do that for some people. I am a very loving sweet person. It’s in my nature. I do think you could go overboard and you shouldn’t do it if it’s fake. But it really depends on context and the situation I guess. You shouldn’t do it if it’s not reciprocated
Keepitsimple · 51-55, F
Keepitsimple · 51-55, F
Nobody likes a push over or a dork. @Number5
@Number5 Nope.
Use "I statements" for honesty when something difficult needs to be said without causing offense.
E.g. - Instead of saying "you stink",
say, "I need to say something that you probably won't want to hear. I feel turned off when your breath smells of stale garlic. Would you be willing to abstain from garlic, or let me know when you're eating it so I can have some too?"
Check out NVC by Marshall Rosenberg. He explains it thoroughly. Once learned and absorbed so that it becomes an automatic way of communicating, it's easy to be both honest and open in any relationship without being hurtful or mean.
Use "I statements" for honesty when something difficult needs to be said without causing offense.
E.g. - Instead of saying "you stink",
say, "I need to say something that you probably won't want to hear. I feel turned off when your breath smells of stale garlic. Would you be willing to abstain from garlic, or let me know when you're eating it so I can have some too?"
Check out NVC by Marshall Rosenberg. He explains it thoroughly. Once learned and absorbed so that it becomes an automatic way of communicating, it's easy to be both honest and open in any relationship without being hurtful or mean.
Nutshell29 · 26-30, F
summersong · F
YoungPoet345 · 26-30, F
SW-User
It depends who is the person.
Carissimi · F
Depends on the guy.
pride49 · 31-35, M
If its a guyd love it
Lostpoet · M
If it were a girl then I'd like it.
Guys it could go both ways
Guys it could go both ways
REMsleep · 41-45, F
Too sweet like licking the floor so my feet don't get dirty is a huge turn off like that person has no options and is a loser or just wants anyone.
If the guy is strong has his own mind and does sweet things that is nice
If the guy is strong has his own mind and does sweet things that is nice