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Keepitsimple · 51-55, F
Keepitsimple · 51-55, F
Nobody likes a push over or a dork. @Number5
@Number5 Nope.
Use "I statements" for honesty when something difficult needs to be said without causing offense.
E.g. - Instead of saying "you stink",
say, "I need to say something that you probably won't want to hear. I feel turned off when your breath smells of stale garlic. Would you be willing to abstain from garlic, or let me know when you're eating it so I can have some too?"
Check out NVC by Marshall Rosenberg. He explains it thoroughly. Once learned and absorbed so that it becomes an automatic way of communicating, it's easy to be both honest and open in any relationship without being hurtful or mean.
Use "I statements" for honesty when something difficult needs to be said without causing offense.
E.g. - Instead of saying "you stink",
say, "I need to say something that you probably won't want to hear. I feel turned off when your breath smells of stale garlic. Would you be willing to abstain from garlic, or let me know when you're eating it so I can have some too?"
Check out NVC by Marshall Rosenberg. He explains it thoroughly. Once learned and absorbed so that it becomes an automatic way of communicating, it's easy to be both honest and open in any relationship without being hurtful or mean.