How is your relationship with your parents and did it change while growing up?
Mine is good. Not pretty close, but it's fine.
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TinyViolins · 31-35, M
They were totally unprepared for parenthood and as their first child, I experienced the brunt of their inexperience. We haven't spoken in about a decade and I don't anticipate ever seeing them again.
I have no ill-will towards them, I just know that their personalities make it impossible for me to want to rekindle anything. They aren't malicious people, but have a very rigid perception of the world that makes communication toxic. So for the sake of my own mental health, I stay as far away as possible.
I guess the only thing that changed was that once I realized I didn't need them in my life, I could voluntarily exclude them, whereas when I was younger, I thought I was completely dependent on them. I gained a lot of my own independence by realizing that the support structure I had couldn't support me
I have no ill-will towards them, I just know that their personalities make it impossible for me to want to rekindle anything. They aren't malicious people, but have a very rigid perception of the world that makes communication toxic. So for the sake of my own mental health, I stay as far away as possible.
I guess the only thing that changed was that once I realized I didn't need them in my life, I could voluntarily exclude them, whereas when I was younger, I thought I was completely dependent on them. I gained a lot of my own independence by realizing that the support structure I had couldn't support me