Hey man. You cannot let anyone hold you back in life even your parents.

I can relate to this sooo much. I still feel bad sometimes for moving out because my parents and my little sister probably did and do still need me around.

But you've got to steel yourself; harden your heart to it.

This is your life damn it.

You didnt ask to be born, so why should you have to ask to live this life that was thrusted upon you anyhow?

Tell them you love them and go do your thing bro. Best of luck!

Parents can be VERY difficult when they are hurt and need help. There are the guilt trips they place on your head if you don't help them, the fact that they are sucking the life out of you, and using you in a way any caring parent never would.

When my mother could no longer be alone ALL of the time, it was awful to have to commute 2 hours to get to her house every single day. Eventually, I hired Home Instead. They have companions available who are not as expensive as a CNA, yet they are still trained, and they are VERY nice.

What you do is contact the company and they come over for a visit to meet your mother. They have time blocks available, usually 4 hours, and you agree to pay for one time block minimum per week, or more. Companions can cook, do light cleaning and do laundry.

I would give them a call and find out how much money they would charge to be there twice a week for your mother. It might be a lot cheaper and healthier for you.

It sounds like you've answered your own question, and I agree.

Your situation is complicated because of family ties. It’s important to be supportive of our loved ones who have been there for us of course. Your mother clearly loves you a lot and has been grateful for the help you’ve provided while staying there. It’s difficult to know what line to draw when carving out our own adult lives but it’s very necessary. I hope for your mother’s healing and good luck to you in your new job/ place of living. I hope things can work out well.