What to do when parents are holding you back in life? (long post)
So, I'm living with my parents at the age of 30. Mainly because I am helping them out with bills and heavy lifting around the house. My Mom fell twice at work, hurt her back and can't do heavy lifting. My Dad is around, but he is mostly at work.
We live in a 3 bedroom apartment in NYC which is pretty expensive. I have 3 older siblings who should be the ones helping out my parents but they barely do. So the responsibility is mostly on me. We have a large family back home in West, Africa so A lot of my parents money goes back there to help them out and money that goes towards their house they are building for after retirement. If it wasn't for the money going back home things would be very very easy for them financially.
Due to the amount of rent I am paying, I'm stressed financially. Would be better for me to live with roommates. At least with roommates I have freedom to do many things. I started a t shirt business with a friend who lives in another state. He's been begging me to move there, so we can push the business forward. He has a place and a job for me that pays a lot more than I am paying now. I told my parents to trade the 3 bedroom for a 2 bedroom so the rent is less. Let me make the move, therefore I'll be making a lot more money to still send money back. My Dad is all for it but my Mom is the issue. She is scared to let me go because I help her out so much. Every time I bring it up she starts crying. I am at the point where I have to make the move. I told her in 6-8 months I am making the move. I can't put my life on hold any longer, I already missed out on soooo much in life.
We live in a 3 bedroom apartment in NYC which is pretty expensive. I have 3 older siblings who should be the ones helping out my parents but they barely do. So the responsibility is mostly on me. We have a large family back home in West, Africa so A lot of my parents money goes back there to help them out and money that goes towards their house they are building for after retirement. If it wasn't for the money going back home things would be very very easy for them financially.
Due to the amount of rent I am paying, I'm stressed financially. Would be better for me to live with roommates. At least with roommates I have freedom to do many things. I started a t shirt business with a friend who lives in another state. He's been begging me to move there, so we can push the business forward. He has a place and a job for me that pays a lot more than I am paying now. I told my parents to trade the 3 bedroom for a 2 bedroom so the rent is less. Let me make the move, therefore I'll be making a lot more money to still send money back. My Dad is all for it but my Mom is the issue. She is scared to let me go because I help her out so much. Every time I bring it up she starts crying. I am at the point where I have to make the move. I told her in 6-8 months I am making the move. I can't put my life on hold any longer, I already missed out on soooo much in life.
