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Are you afraid of rejection like me?

I need advice. In person I am afraid to actually portray myself to other people. I am afraid that what I may say or may appear will be rejected. So, in turn, for the longest time I have responded how I believe the person/persons wanted me to respond. I have never really actually "been" myself.

Can someone help me, I know what I need to do, just BE MYSELF respond how I think in my head.. am I wrong? Or should I lock myself up in a box and throw away the key, and only reveal myself to a close few?
Gusman · 61-69, M Best Comment
I used to be afraid of rejection. Always wanting to be a part of everything and feeling devastated when this did not happen.
Then one day I decided to stop trying to fit in. If I had to "try" then it was not for me. My life became so much easier when I came to accept myself as I am, with all my foibles and intricacies.
I present the "real me" now. Those who look at me askance have no impact on me.
I am who I am and I am okay with that.
Accept who you are with your own frailties and strengths. Most important of all is believe in yourself.
Plus remember, many people, "Put on a Facade" because they too, " Want to belong"
Gusman · 61-69, M
@Gusman Thanks for BA.
You are worthy of whatever it is you are seeking. Everyone has the right to be happy. Please yourself instead of trying to please other people.
Okieta · 31-35, F
@Gusman Thank you, I appreciate your words of advice

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Not afraid of it. But it just doesn’t happen. Nobody ever rejects me and lives to tell the tale. 😠
ScrewThisImDone · 26-30, F
Revealing yourself to others is scary, especially when you've been rejected before, but keeping yourself closed off is just as likely to hurt you. It's better to take the risk than to keep everyone at arms' length.
Okieta · 31-35, F
@ScrewThisImDone you are absolutely right, thanks for that
ScrewThisImDone · 26-30, F
Happy to help. :)
Sounds like you just need to get comfortable with yourself. I am natural and just me. Some like it some don't but that is their problem. Take your time and practice your big reveal on people that don't know you
Okieta · 31-35, F
@Mondayschild you are absolutely right
@Okieta I'm glad you understood all that. You don't need people that can't accept you for being your true self.
coolboy86 · 36-40, M
im so fucking numb to it by now that its a shock to the system when i do find someone who will actually go out with me
MURD3RM0NK3Y · 26-30, M
You know it’s gonna happen whether you like it or not right everyone gets rejected
Miram · 31-35, F
Yes, bé yourself. Avoidance doesn't help against emotional pain.
Fauxmyope2 · 26-30, F
Yes, I am. I have no advice though. I hope that you can move forward.
ViciDraco · 36-40, M
Terrified of it, even though I know I really needn't be.

 
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