I am not an "either/or" person

Life is nuanced and complex.

Either/or thinking is a common symptom of cognative distortion, something I have not been diagnosed with.

If anything, despite what people may think, i usually spend my time thinking about why people are the way they are, how they view the world, why they think the way they do. I spend a large part of my mental time putting myself in other people's shoes.

I also take in new information and consider it, learn about it and include it in my ways of thinking.

So if I make a post that offends you because you think i am being close minded, that's on you and how you really don't know me.

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Ferric67 · M

I'm similar to you in that sense, try to understand the intent behind the action

NerdyPotato ·

"The more you know, the harder you will find it to make up your mind; it doesn't really matter if you find you can't see which grass is greener. Chances are it's neither, and either way it's easier to see the difference when you're sitting on the fence."

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HikingMan · 51-55, M

Where do you find yourself as you place yourself in other people’s shoes?

Do you ever come out worse for the wear, or does perspective see you through?

FoxyGoddess · 51-55, F

@HikingMan i usually find an understanding, not always an acceptance, but a path to maybe feel a sort of familiarity with them.

Honestly, in moments where i am forced to do this, i often come away feeling sad or sympathetic for them. But it also helps me know how to adjust my contact with them and determine if I want to.

HikingMan · 51-55, M

@FoxyGoddessl
So perspective sees you through.

You are unique.

I wish you well in all of your future interactions here. Though honestly I don’t think you need luck.
You have a balanced perspective.

ArishMell · 70-79, M

The bst way to be - oh that others were as open-minded and prepared to comprehend why people believe as they do, even if not always agreeing.

One might add though that sometimes I think people with very set, closed views on something, could not explain themselves why they hold those views.

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