I am not an "either/or" person

Life is nuanced and complex.

Either/or thinking is a common symptom of cognative distortion, something I have not been diagnosed with.

If anything, despite what people may think, i usually spend my time thinking about why people are the way they are, how they view the world, why they think the way they do. I spend a large part of my mental time putting myself in other people's shoes.

I also take in new information and consider it, learn about it and include it in my ways of thinking.

So if I make a post that offends you because you think i am being close minded, that's on you and how you really don't know me.

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HikingMan · 51-55, M

Where do you find yourself as you place yourself in other people’s shoes?

Do you ever come out worse for the wear, or does perspective see you through?

FoxyGoddess · 51-55, F

@HikingMan i usually find an understanding, not always an acceptance, but a path to maybe feel a sort of familiarity with them.

Honestly, in moments where i am forced to do this, i often come away feeling sad or sympathetic for them. But it also helps me know how to adjust my contact with them and determine if I want to.

HikingMan · 51-55, M

@FoxyGoddessl
So perspective sees you through.

You are unique.

I wish you well in all of your future interactions here. Though honestly I don’t think you need luck.
You have a balanced perspective.