@MindfulOne Understood. If you need a sounding board or just to vent, you know where to find me. Be well, be happy.

@LadyGrace thank you. I excercised for 20 this morning and it helps soften the blow those words made to my relationship-ego yesterday. But it his way of saying I have to work harder and faster...

@MindfulOne oh wow that is super good 20 minutes. People might look at that and say oh wow, only 20 minutes... I exercise the whole hour, but no! I've done those 20 minute deals and it is a big deal and accomplishment, and those are so effective. I applaud you! Some people can't even do that. But you're being your own best friend and supporter, which is so important. That says you love and respect yourself to keep on keeping on no matter if anybody is in your corner or not. That's half the battle, but truly it should not be a battle when you're trying to do something like this. What I do for my weight loss journey is just take my time, take it slow, be happy with whatever progress I make that day whether it's 10 minutes or 20 minutes of exercise, it's enough and it always will be because you're enough.

I'm sorry you're feelings were hurt yesterday but I must tell you one thing. Some people don't realize that trying to get someone to exercise using bullying techniques to where they think that makes one want to get all revved up and motivated to lose weight, that doesn't work at all and I wish people wouldn't do that. That's not the way to motivate people and that should not be allowed nor acceptable in your book. Ever! I feel that's abusive and you have a right to feel hurt. If that's the way someone tries to motivate me, they lose me altogether, that's just it. I think that's very degrading and it puts way too much pressure on the person on you, when you're trying your very best to lose weight anyway, and then they get this added extra pressure. That's not helping, that's hurting. Even Dr Phil on his show one time told this guy look you pressuring her and trying to force her to do something doesn't help her one bit. You need to stop it. I was so glad he put that guy in his place. That's like hitting somebody over the head with a ball peen hammer and saying don't eat that, then telling them it's for their own good! It is nothing but counter productive. And a terrible way to treat someone, I might add. What in the world is that? That's an awful way to motivate someone and I'm sure they couldn't stay motivated to even continue, if somebody treated them like that. It's nothing but bullying tactics. That really makes me angry you're being treated like that. Yeah that really makes you want to just get out there and and be happy about it when you're struggling anyway. Not! There's no motivation in those tactics at all. Dr Phil said we teach people how to treat us. Whatever person's treat us like that, they need to know that doesn't work at all so they should stop. You don't get an animal to do new tricks or try new things by beating them, any more than you don't give a human being that desire and motivation to do better, by brutalizing them emotionally. That bruises the self-esteem, not builds it. You need to have a talk with whoever is doing that to you and make it very clear that you are motivated by encouragement and support which does not involve pressuring you. They should realize it's hard enough without people putting you down. Those tactics just do not work, period! but if you do speak to this person about it, the way to the approach that is not to attack the person. To get better results you could say things like, "you know, I know you love me and you want the best for me, but when you say things like that, it really hurts my feelings and makes me want to quit instead of do better. That way you're not really attacking the person... You're simply telling that person how they make you feel when they do or say a certain thing and that's very important to concentrate on. You let the person know how they make you feel, not what they did to you. See what I mean? And I would let that person know "When I feel defeated, that's when I just want to give up and quit all together and that's what will happen if things don't change. Let's try going about this a different way. Then I'll feel so much better about this journey. Negative prompts just don't work for me when it comes to losing weight." There you're not banging down on a person yet you're still letting them know how it makes you feel and that should be effective. Now some people won't get that message the first time. They may not get it the second or third time either but just keep it up reminding them but don't yell. That's a very tough situation to be in and I pray things change for you soon so you can feel better about yourself and truly be encouraged. But you should never allow abuse or bullying in your life. Because if you do, it won't get better. It would just get worse until they understand you mean what you say and that's what you teach them and stick to your guns because you love yourself and respect yourself enough to do that and they should too. I really hate when somebody says well they mean well. That doesn't help anything or change anything just because they mean well. They need to get the message that a person who loves and supports someone, will be with them and love, support, and encourage them, no matter what they're doing or what their weight is!

@LadyGrace thank you LadyGrace
Your words are the compassion I will lean on

@BridgeOvertroubledWaters thank you

@MindfulOne its all in the diet

@RisingMorningStar7 yes.

@MindfulOne eat salads with protein, eat yogurt with berries, eat slow. It will your tummy time to contract and not crave heavy amounts of food, stay busy around the house.

@whowasthatmaskedman carborundum?

@MindfulOne (Joke translation) " Dont let the B@$t@rds wear you down" (Carborundum is an old brand of sandpaper)😷

@whowasthatmaskedman thank you I appreciate your encouragement.