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How do you make amends after an argument?

I like arguments, most of the time. Because everything gets aired out and vented. And all that's left to do is to fix it.

The thing is though. I'm very passionate and to the point when I argue. I'm coming hard and with facts.

If I feel that I'm wrong then I won't argue. Just say sorry my bad and fix it.

I feel bad when it's with someone I hold dear though.

How to make it better.

???

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" The aim of argument, or of discussion, should not be victory, but progress. "

- Joseph Joubert

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Fairydust · F

Not everyone wants to fix things, it’s best to talk and sort it.

I’m the same, if I’m wrong I’ll back down and apologise.

Nevaeh0081 · 36-40, F

@Fairydust True

Good of you.

🙏

monellla731 · 46-50, M

@Fairydust it's not backing down it's stepping up

Fairydust · F

@monellla731

Yeah I guess I’ve stepped up lol 😬

Matt85 · 36-40, M

make up sex

(that's good that you apologize by the way, honourable)

metaldog

give them some space for a few days

Nevaeh0081 · 36-40, F

@metaldog wise move

revenant · F

Yes, keeping it all inside will make you sick in the long run.

Nevaeh0081 · 36-40, F

@revenant True. I need to work on my delivery. I'm usually good with it. But when triggers are hit .... I feel so bad.

SW-User

Take a break to cool down, then sit and have a discussion, if you can. Some people take difficult conversations as too personal and not really listen. 😟

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monellla731 · 46-50, M

@SW-User friendships and work relationships

SW-User

@monellla731 Those too

monellla731 · 46-50, M

@SW-User I can't tell you how many that is fine at least now i know who they are

Eddiesolds · 61-69, M

I forgive the minute that i see tears. Then i try my best to show them that this is all wrong. I always give in. Its too painful.

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Eddiesolds · 61-69, M

@Nevaeh0081 I understand..i can be a real ass .

Nevaeh0081 · 36-40, F

@Eddiesolds when you have to be. ☝️👌

Eddiesolds · 61-69, M

@Nevaeh0081 Yes Mam.

LoneVoice

Some people would rather die than compromise or fix. At that point you just erase them from your life. They do not want to be bothered by you.

Nevaeh0081 · 36-40, F

@LoneVoice 💯☝️

monellla731 · 46-50, M

I have no problem admitting that i am wrong and apologizing

Nevaeh0081 · 36-40, F

@monellla731 big of you..

monellla731 · 46-50, M

@Nevaeh0081 I told my boss that and he said that i am way ahead of most people 15 years later they will be stuck in the same mentality no progress!

SW-User

" The aim of argument, or of discussion, should not be victory, but progress. "

This I agree upon within all of my heart. Now, though, I have learned I have to bend my spirit (ego) some to see another's perspective, point of view, and sometimes without needing an argument I can find their meanings.

Listening first before speaking helps.

Nevaeh0081 · 36-40, F

@SW-User Absolutely true. Patience is key.

SW-User

@Nevaeh0081 With both parties involved within the argument .... so rare to find. You can piss one off more if you are patient at the moment ... don't need to be calm, so you have to find a way to also express your words holding feeling .... Last thing another one wants to feel is that you don't care...

Nevaeh0081 · 36-40, F

@SW-User Absolutely.

When I feel that, it's pretty much done.

A lot or all respect is gone.

In arguments, your patience shows the extent of your love.

akindheart · 61-69, F

i am the exact same way but i always apologize when i am wrong.

Nevaeh0081 · 36-40, F

@akindheart Me, too. 😊

wackidywack · 26-30

I like to make amends because most of the time, if not all, I never mean to cause anything hurtful or disrespectful or something. When something goes wrong in my relationships, I'll either clarify it or apologize -depending on if whether I made a mistake or it was generally a misunderstanding

Nevaeh0081 · 36-40, F

@wackidywack Experienced. Thanks. Very good advice.

WillaKissing · 56-60

I hate to argue, and I will not waste my time arguing. But I love discussing differences and coming to at least an understanding with a person.

Arguing always seems to be a path to a victory for the person starting the argument.

I choose the path of discussion with understanding and progress in my life.

Nevaeh0081 · 36-40, F

@WillaKissing 💯👏👏👏👌

being · 36-40, F

I too like arguments the way you put it, but I keep them for rare occasions...:)
Give them space like it's been mentioned. Then make your feelings and intentions clear and they'll get the message. Be patient now .

Nevaeh0081 · 36-40, F

@being Yes. I think you're right.

TurtleEclipseOfTheHeart · 22-25, F

it just depends on the person. if i really care about them and want them in my life, i'll do anything. other people, they can stay out of my life

Nevaeh0081 · 36-40, F

@TurtleEclipseOfTheHeart ☝️👌

PTCdresser57 · 61-69, M

I will argue when I have facts and data to back me up. If I am wrong after an argument I just apologize for being wrong

Nevaeh0081 · 36-40, F

@PTCdresser57 ☝️👌👍👏👏👏👏🤜🤛

SStarfish ·

Just stop arguing about things .. hold your tongue .. sheesh

Nevaeh0081 · 36-40, F

@SStarfish People like you make me want to argue. You couldn't deliver that in a better way?

in10RjFox · M

Just a kiss with a smile ..

just loved your argument

Will Fix it ..

SW-User

That’s private business 😈

Nevaeh0081 · 36-40, F

@SW-User Not exactly. Something that I feel could use some feedback. SW is really good for a sounding board. Plenty of different minds and perspectives.

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