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Am I being irrational for being kinda upset?

My bf the other day was like 'you should do more hairstyles' and I was like 'yeah it's kinda hard because my hairs so long'. Anyway today he sent me a picture of this girl on Instagram and was like 'I like this hairstyle. See how it's like kind of wild and crazy?'. Then I was saying its layered and my hairs silky so it's hard to do. Then he said 'I don't know what layered is but I wonder how your hair would look if you layered it pretty'. I'm really hurt lol, am I being a sensitive little girl?馃樂
Itsprincess
22-25, F
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goagainsttheflow 路 26-30, F
That was kinda rude of him to say, so yeah it would hurt. Don't let it get to you, your hair's fine the way it is!
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Itsprincess 路 22-25, F
That's what I feel, aw thank you 馃槉
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Something 路 41-45, M
I don't think it's necessarily disrespectful - he might just not really understand that all hair can't do all styles, and genuinely just think you'd look pretty that way. It's a weird way to suggest it, but I wouldn't assume it was an insult to your hair as it is now.

If he continues to push you to change it knowing that you're happy with your hair as is, then he's being unreasonably controlling and you ought to give him hell.
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Itsprincess 路 22-25, F
@Something: Ohh I see. I told him 'I wonder too. I might look like whoever you want me to copy'. And he just said 'I cant even ask my own girlfriend to try pretty things and ask her to try hair styles or nail colours or anything? What is wrong with you? I feel like I am almost fed up with you.' So upset 馃槶馃槶
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Something 路 41-45, M
@Itsprincess: Ok well that's not something you can chalk up to awkward wording... He's trying to make you feel guilty about not wanting to change your hair for him, and he's (not so) subtly threatening a break-up so you will try to win his approval back. Even if it started innocent, that's him being manipulative.
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Itsprincess 路 22-25, F
@Something: that makes sense. I just said im done so guess im the manipulative one now but oh well lol
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SW-User
He should just listen to you. And saying 'layered it pretty' rubs me the wrong way 貌-艒
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Itsprincess 路 22-25, F
That's what I feel like. What do you mean?馃槉
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SW-User
@Itsprincess: it seems almost manipulative. He asked, you said no which is fine, but then to say that..seems odd
Idk though
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Itsprincess 路 22-25, F
@Pseudonym: exactly what I was thinking! I get scared im being petty but I'm clearly not since everyone else is thinking it
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RedRhapsody 路 31-35, F
No because you're not a personal doll and you should choose whatever hairstyles you like?
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Itsprincess 路 22-25, F
Yeahh, I mean it's not like he's forcing me or telling me to change it so idk if it's that bad 馃憖
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SW-User
He doesn't sound very intelligent. I'm no expert on hair either but I understood all of that.
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Itsprincess 路 22-25, F
He's really smart lol he just doesn't know many girls maybe that's why.
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Booyeah 路 41-45, M
Sounds like he's not getting the message.
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Itsprincess 路 22-25, F
Yeah:/
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NaturallyPeculiar 路 26-30, F
I think you are being a bit sensitive, but I also think that some girls tend to take more pride in their hair (I never thought I did until part of my hair had to be shaved for surgery and I cried like a baby because it was so upsetting) so I could see why you'd feel hurt that he doesn't like your hair the way it is.
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Itsprincess 路 22-25, F
Yeah I agree:/ aw that's horrible so would I aha
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SW-User
I would be happy if my boyfriend gave any input on what my hair should look like. I always ask for his opinion but he's always like "I don't care" ugh
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Itsprincess 路 22-25, F
That means he loves you and is happy with how you are be grateful lmao jks馃槄
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Exhibiter1000 路 61-69, M
Why I he looking at another woman on instagram when he has a beautiful woman at home waiting on him
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Itsprincess 路 22-25, F
Aha thank you, we live in different countries though
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Exhibiter1000 路 61-69, M
Your welcome. I still make that statement. Your s beautiful person
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Candice 路 46-50, F
Sounds a bit of a turkey even doing something like that.
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