Am I being irrational for being kinda upset?

My bf the other day was like 'you should do more hairstyles' and I was like 'yeah it's kinda hard because my hairs so long'. Anyway today he sent me a picture of this girl on Instagram and was like 'I like this hairstyle. See how it's like kind of wild and crazy?'. Then I was saying its layered and my hairs silky so it's hard to do. Then he said 'I don't know what layered is but I wonder how your hair would look if you layered it pretty'. I'm really hurt lol, am I being a sensitive little girl?😷

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Something · 41-45, M

I don't think it's necessarily disrespectful - he might just not really understand that all hair can't do all styles, and genuinely just think you'd look pretty that way. It's a weird way to suggest it, but I wouldn't assume it was an insult to your hair as it is now.

If he continues to push you to change it knowing that you're happy with your hair as is, then he's being unreasonably controlling and you ought to give him hell.

Itsprincess · 22-25, F

But him saying layered it pretty, doesn't that imply that he doesn't think it's pretty atm? Yeah I agree lol

Something · 41-45, M

@Itsprincess: It does imply that, but he could have just worded it awkwardly.

Itsprincess · 22-25, F

@Something: Ohh I see. I told him 'I wonder too. I might look like whoever you want me to copy'. And he just said 'I cant even ask my own girlfriend to try pretty things and ask her to try hair styles or nail colours or anything? What is wrong with you? I feel like I am almost fed up with you.' So upset 😭😭

Something · 41-45, M

@Itsprincess: Ok well that's not something you can chalk up to awkward wording... He's trying to make you feel guilty about not wanting to change your hair for him, and he's (not so) subtly threatening a break-up so you will try to win his approval back. Even if it started innocent, that's him being manipulative.

Itsprincess · 22-25, F

@Something: that makes sense. I just said im done so guess im the manipulative one now but oh well lol