How important is religion/spirituality in your romantic connections?

RebelFox · 36-40, F

I couldn't be with someone who was even a little over my threshold of religeous. I feel the spirit and connectedness of nature but I dont want anyone reciting crap they heard.

Beatbox34 · 31-35, M

I think mutual understanding matters here for me.

As long as they won't force me to believe in what they feel is right then I won't do the same. We're all individuals at the end of the day and should be free to profess our faith or beliefs.

HakunaMatata · 51-55, M

@Beatbox34 wonderful 🙂. Mutual respect for our individual choices are important.

4meAndyou · F

In the distant past, it was not important at all. It should have been. I think I might have been much happier.

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SW-User

@4meAndyou True. I agree with you completely. It is believed that honest communication bridges the gap. After all I would like to believe that true love us a process and not an available product. I would still love to see a world where people communicate effectively sincerely focusing on the emotional and spiritual growth of each other. That's when we feel like we are growing together in a relationship. No one is perfect to start with. We learn from others, who are God's own children, hold each other's hand in good times as well as bad times and grow together. When we see our partner slightly down we have to lift her/him and vice-versa.

4meAndyou · F

@SW-User All with the assumption that your partner is not a narcissist whose way of survival is to lie to everyone.

SW-User

@4meAndyou Absolutely. When we emphasize on communication, it should be a honest communication. Otherwise it will defeat the very purpose. When you say lying, I am assuming that one is being manipulative. That won't be fair at all. However there are cases where ones perception is limited by the boundaries of her/his belief system. In such cases eventhough it won't be a case of lying, it would be tough on the other person. That's where love faces it's challenge. However true love breaks all barriers. Intimacy is the key and it comes with honest communication. Often the term intimacy is misunderstood. We always see the right in us and wrong in others. To understand each other better it is essential to be in the other person's shoes and understand her/his perspective. It is quite possible that one is more right and the other is more wrong. However it is important for the more right to communicate that to the other in a loving and graceful manner. That is when we start accepting each other for who they are. That's the seed of love and it can only grow further. That's the law of nature. God has given us all the tools and with his grace the seeds of love will be sown. Only thing required from us is to believe in that grace and nurture the gift of love.

NickiHijab · F

I used to think it wasn't that important but the older I'm getting I'm starting to realise it definitely is. I don't expect the same degrees of faith, nor do I expect exactly the same ideas but I expect mutual understanding. If we're not on the same wavelength there's not gonna be much of a bond there.

HakunaMatata · 51-55, M

@NickiHijab I totally understand the sentiment of it becoming more important/relevant as we grow old.

RopinTexan · 31-35, M

Very much so. It used to be less important, but I’ve been in relationships with women with various religious views, and even seemingly small differences (even if we believe in the same God) can prove difficult. I’m not saying we have to have identical beliefs on everything, but the closer the better.

checkoutanytime · M

I'm not religious, I love nature so it's not a problem, as long as she's not a mini Kardashian

BigBulge · 41-45, M

You can have any religion you choose. Just don't try to push it off onto me.

Mrsbetweenfatandfit · 26-30, F

Respect is most important.

My husband & I don’t believe the same thing. But I couldn’t be with anyone that mocked others beliefs. It’s unattractive

HakunaMatata · 51-55, M

@Mrsbetweenfatandfit the mutual respect bit is so important!

Mindful · 56-60, F

@Mrsbetweenfatandfit true

MasterLee · 56-60, M

Non factor

Adstar · 56-60, M

Well currently Zero because i am not in a romantic situation.. But if i was getting serious with a woman that woman would have to be saved. A committed solid Christian woman..

Allelse · 36-40, M

They can be spiritual but they can't be religious, and their spirituality has to be pretty low key, so no basing major life decisions on their fortune in the stars.