When my father was emotionally abusing me, i told my granny.

She said i am being so prideful being a girl and I should stay in my place because this place is his and also he is man so he will say and do what he wants bcuz he is more prideful than girls and see good in him, why can't I be grateful that he is providing for us.

I mean how can she make excuses for men's bad behaviour and tell me to stay in my place which is very disrespectful.

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AngelUnforgiven · 51-55, F

Sadly it may be how she was brought up. Times were different then. In my opinion you can respect a person as your parent and love them from afar if you feel that they are abusive or not a positive influence in your life. I moved out at 18, got a car, a job, and an apartment and never looked back.

inaccessible · 51-55, M

I'm not sure if you're blaming your grandma for her opinion or your father for his behavior, but anyways, I'll explain some fathers (or family supporters ) behavior, an explanation, not justification. Those men (sometimes women, if they support the family) see them selves as a model greater than a lion, a lion sits lazy and the leopard brings him food, but on the other hand, he safeguards the pack from dangers, and that is the same case with some men, except they provide food on the table on top of protection, the worse the community is, the more dangers outside the home, so if you leave the house and even managed to support yourself, you'll still have to face the hyenas of this wilderness. Those types of fathers evaluate that democracy within the household is totally unacceptable because of all what he does.
Now that being said, there's a lot of psychopath fathers that are just irrational

LLcoolK · 51-55, M

Definitions mean everything. How do you define emotional abuse? Maybe your grandmother had a perspective worth listening to.

sahi81 · 22-25, F

@LLcoolK check google , red flags and emotional abuse signs

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LLcoolK · 51-55, M

@sahi81 Yeah, those aren't words fathers should use toward their family members. Parents make mistakes, grandparents make mistakes and children make mistakes. Only you know your family dynamic, but that kind of treatment from a father is sad to hear about. Words from mothers and fathers have a significant impact on children.

MyNameIsHurl · 41-45, F

Im sorry you went through that ☹

updown2020 · 61-69, M

Wow how nice. Have you gotten out of that situation?

sahi81 · 22-25, F

@updown2020 I will soon, this September . Going to other country just to stay away from my toxic family.

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