I Hate Gender Roles And Stereotypes

I really struggle with this one and I have all of my life. I never quite fit the assigned role for me growing up. I've listened many times the positive messages of "you do you" but can still hear the echoes of less obvious cues that tell a very different message. I'm reminded again and again that terms like "quirky" and "different" aren't messages of acceptance. They hold hidden agendas behind them to let me know I do not fit what is expected. I like these things about myself, but deep inside I know I would be happier if I were just "normal".

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SoFine · 46-50, F

The cover, the body is our vehicle, to talk, to run.
The motor, our brain is the decision maker.

We do life
We be life

The doing is the doing, in a vehicle. This vehicle, needs fuel, needs rest.
The being is the being, the vehicle has no effect on the being.

To be
To be you
To be you, (not the vehicle, secondary )

Your worth of self, is your life job for you. You are the focus and your worth. Outside of you, you won't find your worth. Your happiness has nothing to do with been accepted, you accept you. You have to live you, you to you is your most important relationship you will have.

To be happy in this life, is all to do with your state of being.
Happiness is a "state" of mind.

VictoriaR · F

Why not be a bit “strange?” Why not be a be different and odd. You’ve got a viewpoint so different from theirs, and I want to see that. I want to see a world that is seen trough different lenses. Let’s do black and white, let’s switch to rainbows, dark blue, green, red. Let’s see through sorrow and joy, I want o see the colors of life, because they’re so beautiful, and the person is so very beautiful to be different! I see some people who are obviously out of the “norm,” and all I can see is how magnificent they are, and how I wish they could see how brilliant they can be. Without differences, where would we be? Without a few rriricisms, were would advancement and development be? Change? Where would all the history be? I want to see a different world, even if to others it looks the same. Let’s pain the earth with it... Oh I’m sounding so awful and corny, sorry... Got a bit carried away... Anyways, my main thing is that I support people who are different... so forth...

Wendy33 · F

@VictoriaR Don't get me wrong. Most times I enjoy being a bit on the eccentric side. There are just other times where I wish I had the strengths that normal people had.

VictoriaR · F

@Wendy33 Yes, I can understand that.. Jusy know, I think it’s really interesting, fun, cool, and enlightening to see people like you, and people who are different... Sometimes it’s reallt, so flipping hard for them... But... Sometimes they look so strong, even when they are about to collapse... Bevause of what they feel, what they’re facing, what’s going on... I’ll usually try to be there, friend with friend.. I’m sure people thought many game changers to be lunatics, crazy, horribleness ugly, whatever... But, they did become people to change things...

IWasCallingYaLarry · 26-30, M

Normal is boring. There are people who worry so much about being different for the sake of just being different. You being called quirky isn't a bad thing. Just like when somebody tells someone else that they are funny, it sometimes just means they're funny. You don't need to try to be offended by everything. I embrace how I am different from others.

th3r0n · 41-45, M

I always enjoyed the company of quirky women and found normal boring. Generally the quirky type is more intelligent and thinks on more things in depth.

Wendy33 · F

@th3r0n I hope I can live up to that assessment.

IWasCallingYaLarry · 26-30, M

Know what stereotype I can't stand that people have constantly assumed about me my whole life? That just because I am a guy, because I have a penis and set of balls that I automatically am into sports. I don't give a shit about sports. They bore me.

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IWasCallingYaLarry · 26-30, M

@Wendy33 yeah both have annoyign stereotypes. Like someone will ask me if I saw the game last night, and I say "Nope. I don't watch sports." and I even know women who say they would also assume their guy is into sports and I'm like "That's like assuming all women love shopping or cooking."

Wendy33 · F

@IWasCallingYaLarry Sports themselves is an interesting expectation. For men, you have to love sports or you're strange. For women, you don't have to like sports, but if you do you're welcomed into the club...just don't win too often against the boys.

IWasCallingYaLarry · 26-30, M

@Wendy33 I am into video games, anime, manga, comics, pretty much anything considered nerdy. I am into that stuff instead of sports.

PhoenixPhail · M

Please don't change yourself to fit what's expected. Whoever you are, don't sell out to be a member of this cookie-cutter society. Your authenticity and uniqueness is vital to your happiness. Don't give it up just to please someone else's ideas of who you should be. 💗

Wendy33 · F

@PhoenixPhail Don't worry. I have no intentions of doing so. Actually I have no ability to do so either.

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