Being lusted over but not loved is draining Just needed to vent but if you have any advices...

I feel your pain, it’s not easy for me to deal with either.

Looking at your age group, guessing they are about the same. Glad to hear you've figured out the difference between lusting and loving. Of course there are men and women who are just in it to play, so to speak. If you are truly sweet and pretty physically and in personality, then you are blessed.

Why would young men not want to be with you? There could be several reasons. Some men find beautiful girls intimidating. Some have preconceived notions of what a beautiful woman would be like. Maybe they were in previous serious relationships that did not end well. Some may just be insecure, or find it hard to believe that a attractive young woman would be interested in them.

As far as lusting, it is almost proverbial about young men and their racing hormones. What do they say.... they think not with their heads or hearts, but with another body part? 🤔😂

in10RjFox · M

Is it because the myth that guys want pretty cute style instead of beautiful girls, are afraid of too beautiful girls or they think they have no chance?

Good that you have realised this quite early in life as many spend their lifetime not being able to distinguish love and lust.

You need to understand the psychology of yours and that of guys to find the ones you would click with. It depends how the guys get to know you, as they see your outlook and decide to approach you. But further on it would depend on how they treat your personality. For instance in online, we get to meet the personality first before the outlook.

Guys your age group want to explore.. so they won't have time to address the love aspect. So rather than deciding from those who approach you, you should on your own seek and explore and gauge on men of different age group handle you.

Ontheroad · M

Many, not all, but many men your age haven't a clue what they want, except they are out shopping for a fun time, no strings attached.

There are those who aren't playing the game, but they aren't the ones who will hit on you, or they will, but you won't recognize it.

Like it or not, you'll have to cut through the trash to find the few who will give as much as they take.

Pizzaguy213 · M

It’s hard when that happens. Sometimes we need to be seen as a person and not just a body and face. People need to feel loved no matter who they are

JSul3 · 70-79

A wise woman once said: "When a man says I love you, they really mean I desire you."

sylvsn59 · 61-69, M

Poor baby

Tastyfrzz · 61-69, M

Never going to gave that problem.
What do you like to do? Maybe dress down bit and just focus on finding someone with similar interests.

Quimliqer · 70-79, M

Probably, they’re intimidated by you when they realize you’re no push over?

Justafantasy · M

You are arrogant. Get your head out of the clouds, you can be confident in your looks and personality. It's a lot of inexplicable stuff that makes you relationship worthy. Playing games and having a bunch of people after you isn't one of them

Royricky09

Hold on.
You are too picky yourself too.

TexChik · F

. They feel inadequate around you.

KingofBones1 · 46-50, M

TheOneyouwerewarnedabout · 46-50, MVIP

DeWayfarer · 61-69, M

It's easy to become ugly! 🤷🏻‍♂🙃

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