Being lusted over but not loved is draining

Just needed to vent but if you have any advices from personal experience or you have studies in this particular matter would be great
A lot of people call me and consider me very sweet, veey beautiful, face body and personality, and i never thought this would get me so much pain from being lusted over.I ve had a lot of guys want me, serious or no serious(i didn t like them) but it happened that the guys i started to be into were just lusting over me or lusting over me and me not caring and when i started to, they distanced.Why is this happening?Some of the guys were fuckboys from the beginning but some of them had previous serious relationships, i just wonder even if i m not into them, why would they not want to be with me
Is it because the myth that guys want pretty cute style instead of beautiful girls, are afraid of too beautiful girls or they think they have no chance?If they re afraid for more then why aren t they afraid of sleeping with them?

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VeronicaJane

Looking at your age group, guessing they are about the same. Glad to hear you've figured out the difference between lusting and loving. Of course there are men and women who are just in it to play, so to speak. If you are truly sweet and pretty physically and in personality, then you are blessed.

Why would young men not want to be with you? There could be several reasons. Some men find beautiful girls intimidating. Some have preconceived notions of what a beautiful woman would be like. Maybe they were in previous serious relationships that did not end well. Some may just be insecure, or find it hard to believe that a attractive young woman would be interested in them.

As far as lusting, it is almost proverbial about young men and their racing hormones. What do they say.... they think not with their heads or hearts, but with another body part? 🤔😂