TinyViolins · 31-35, M
Hope is the line between confidence and insecurity. When you have hope, you are gaining confidence in yourself or in an outcome. When you feel hopeless, you are allowing insecurity to undermine those things.
The reason hope feels out of reach when you lack confidence is because it is.
I like to think of life is a series of probabilistic outcomes. Nothing is ever set in stone, but some things are more likely than others. I'm probably going to make it home from work tonight because I always have before, but someday I might not. I'm probably never going to make it to the Olympics because I like pizza and movies too damn much.
But my philosophy right now is that I have to give myself a chance. I might get really lucky and find a house within my budget, but probability would dictate that I need to save more money first. Once I start putting in the time and effort to better my odds, then I can start to have hope that it can happen. But until then, hope is almost delusional.
I think hopelessness is a defense mechanism to keep negative self-thinking to a minimum. Who wants to be reminded that they're not good enough all the time? It'd be debilitating. It's really only when we give ourselves a fair shot at things, by working on flaws or limitations or just bettering ourselves in certain ways - in other words, building confidence - can hope start to be a reasonable option. A probability
The reason hope feels out of reach when you lack confidence is because it is.
I like to think of life is a series of probabilistic outcomes. Nothing is ever set in stone, but some things are more likely than others. I'm probably going to make it home from work tonight because I always have before, but someday I might not. I'm probably never going to make it to the Olympics because I like pizza and movies too damn much.
But my philosophy right now is that I have to give myself a chance. I might get really lucky and find a house within my budget, but probability would dictate that I need to save more money first. Once I start putting in the time and effort to better my odds, then I can start to have hope that it can happen. But until then, hope is almost delusional.
I think hopelessness is a defense mechanism to keep negative self-thinking to a minimum. Who wants to be reminded that they're not good enough all the time? It'd be debilitating. It's really only when we give ourselves a fair shot at things, by working on flaws or limitations or just bettering ourselves in certain ways - in other words, building confidence - can hope start to be a reasonable option. A probability
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