why do i seek validation from men

i noticed i tend to seek out compliments from men when in reality, the person who should love themselves the most is myself.

i feel so lost in myself that i have lost my morals and self respect just by seeking compliments from men. it’s such a temporary solution to this feeling and i want to change. i want to start loving myself and how i look. i want to start loving the person that i deserve to be

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AngelUnforgiven · 51-55, F Best Comment

You keep saying i want to start. What's stopping you? Sounds like you know what needs to be done. Just do it love! Have some self respect, some morals, and know that you are more than just a body, or looks, or a sex symbol. If you were to ever become a mother how would you want to be seen in the eyes of your children? Be someone that YOU can be proud of.

summalovin · 18-21, F

@AngelUnforgiven I may or may not have just sobbed, Thank you for this. You have no idea how much this means to me. I’ll take your advice!! I can’t thank you enough, you’ve changed my life to be fair

AngelUnforgiven · 51-55, F

@summalovin anytime luv 🫂. You can do it!

Mordechai · 31-35, M

It's a hard one. Sometimes there are things we can change that are positive and we do all secretly like validation from others, we're social beings after all.

Setting boundaries for the things you don't like and don't feel good about is a good place to start.

basilfawlty89 · 36-40, M

Likely low self-esteem.
Spend time with you, do things you enjoy.
You'll see you get along with yourself.

summalovin · 18-21, F

@basilfawlty89 Thank you will do

Monalisasmith86 · 41-45, F

The only compliment I need from a guy is my husbands that’s it that’s enough for me

bioluminescent · 36-40, F

Your father didn't if you any is why usually

DarthInvader · 36-40, M

Why is it wrong to enjoy validation from men? Are you not attracted to men? Do you not wish them to find you attractive as well?

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DarthInvader · 36-40, M

@basilfawlty89 Of course. I've always had a naturally masculine build. I've had a few guys notice my build. That was nice.

I'm confused what that has to do with this post though...

summalovin · 18-21, F

@DarthInvader Reread my post then

DarthInvader · 36-40, M

@summalovin I’ve read what you wrote, but I’m unclear as to whether you feel that seeking compliments from men is wrong in itself, or is it more about the way you sometimes seek that validation, in ways that you feel compromise your morals or self-respect? If you’re a straight woman, it makes sense that you’d want compliments from men, that’s a natural part of attraction.

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