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I Just Had A Weird EP Moment

Young man, ages 22-25, whom I had never had any interaction with on the public thread just started messaging me. Because I didn't see anything pervy or offensive in his profile, I accepted his message and messaged him back. To keep this from being filtered out of the main EP homepage, I'll post the details of the interaction below.

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TeresaRudolph71 · 51-55, F

So here's the entire content of the thread:

deepishasbf 45 mins ago
hi

Me 41 mins ago
Hi.

deepishasbf 40 mins ago
I m so lonely in bed

deepishasbf 35 mins ago
be my friend

Me 31 mins ago
I am open to making new friends, but when you say you're feeling lonely in bed, that makes me wonder what you're really after. Have you read everything in my profile? Do you know that I am in a committed relationship?

deepishasbf 30 mins ago
ok

deepishasbf 30 mins ago
but ss friend sharing only

deepishasbf 29 mins ago
I like ur maturity

Me 22 mins ago
Okay, friends it is then.

deepishasbf 21 mins ago
I dont need sex just sharing what do u wsnt n look like?

deepishasbf 20 mins ago
so u have a bf?

deepishasbf 14 mins ago
tell me

Me 12 mins ago
Yes, I have a serious boyfriend. We have been dating for just over two and a half years now.

deepishasbf 11 mins ago
nice n wbu sex

Me 10 mins ago
What?

deepishasbf 8 mins ago
did u sex yet?

Me 8 mins ago
Why? Why are you asking me about this?

deepishasbf 7 mins ago
u r 45 so dont need kids

deepishasbf 7 mins ago
it nay be late

Me 6 mins ago
What? What are you talking about?

deepishasbf 5 mins ago
leave u r rigid

Me 4 mins ago
What's the purpose of you talking about this?

Me 3 mins ago
??????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????

deepishasbf 2 mins ago
I need u friend

deepishasbf 2 mins ago
I m 34

deepishasbf 2 mins ago
in a sexless marriage

deepishasbf 2 mins ago
so concerned for u

Me 1 second ago
No, you're not concerned about me. You're obviously just trying to make me feel bad by saying that I'm too old to have kids and calling me "rigid." I don't know what you are, but you're clearly not a friend.

And then I blocked him. I probably should have blocked him sooner, but I wanted to give him the chance to explain himself and maybe apologize for being inappropriate. This made me wonder if he may have looked into my profile and read the first question I posted on EP, about wanting to have kids someday and wondering what to do about it. But I didn't want to mention that to him, because he would just take that as an invitation to just try to make me feel bad about it.

What would you have said to someone who was saying things like this to you?

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TeresaRudolph71 · 51-55, F

I can understand doing that. I suppose if I get a lot more nasty messages like the one I got from him, I may feel the need to do that.

And that would be a good response. I think that sometimes I've been too generous with my time (as someone else told me). Sometimes it's better to just end the conversation and not explain why I'm ending it.

TeresaRudolph71 · 51-55, F

Thanks. You as well! :)

TeresaRudolph71 · 51-55, F

Yes it would. Thank goodness for nice people, both on EP and offline.

dathglas

wow thats realy sad. people on here sometimes can be really sad in general. they are desperate and dont think they have any where else to go but an internet site made for sharing hard and interesting life experiences and oddities that make each of us unique. then they come on here looking for love and its like "um im sorry but you just need to go away now, i dont need your sadness". so yes ep can be weird. one time i think i may have told you this but a kid my age first asked me randomly if i beat people until they bleed. and this was randomly. it was super strange. then i said no i had not but said i may have done things equivalent to that and he thought i meant that "yes i did do that"and he was being serous and he acted like he was afraid of me and stuff. it was strange really. then i had to explain to him a bunch of stuff and he finally understood me. it was super weird

TeresaRudolph71 · 51-55, F

That is weird. It's weird how people can sometimes twist things we say into something that we obviously don't mean, and yes, some people are just sad.

And I don't think that this guy was even looking for love. He was already married, and it sounded like he was just looking to have sex, and also trying to put me down at the same time, which is doubly weird. I don't understand why some guys think that they can seduce a woman by insulting her. Very weird.

westsideblues1

YEP MANY MEN BELIEVE INSULTING WOMEN WILL GET THEM PU......

Stereoguy

I had a problem like that too. One of my groups is I like watches. I like really nice watches. This guy posted and said he was into watches too. I didn't see anything wrong with that and accepted the friend request. Turns out this guy was unto buying women's watches, putting them on Mr. Happy and taking picture's of them. He got really upset when I wouldn't let him send me his portfolio. Fortunately he tried this with a few other people too and EP banned him. He came back under a new profile. That's how I found out, but he wasn't around long. I wasn't sad to see him go though.

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Stereoguy

I hope you are right.

beginnerr2003

You don't suppose he had trouble with his spelling and really meant he liked watching😀 You were right not to give him the time.

TeresaRudolph71 · 51-55, F

Well, I might have thought that he had trouble with his spelling (as a lot of perverts seem to have), except that he apparently said that he liked putting his watch on Mr. Happy and taking (and sending) pictures of it. Who knows, maybe he likes watching people too. It sounds like he may like to watch and be watched, too.

SaraBee1995

Yeah I've posted a few of these interactions into stories (and FYI, EP hadn't edited or rejected any of them). So the guy is obviously a sad case. He is desperately gasping for some kind of interaction with someone and has no social skills.

I don't generally block anyone, but with these guys I do play up the shame card pretty heavy. Sometimes it works, sometimes not. I hate that so many newer user's of EP think this place is a dating site or a hook-up app. It was so much better when it was just a place where writers came to share experiences.

TeresaRudolph71 · 51-55, F

I agree. I hope that more EP users will use this site for what it was intended, to share experiences, to get and give advice, and to make friends.

Mechty

Some people are really weird ..one day I received a new message from someone . I expected to ,,hi " or ,,hey" but that guy sent me a photo and told like if he needs to shave or not ..I told like do what you like and I block him quickly

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TeresaRudolph71 · 51-55, F

Oh my goodness. I've heard some crazy things, but that's really something. Yeah, it does make one wonder, what kinds of fools do they take us for? I guess they figure it's worth taking a gamble on the slim to none chance (and slim just left the room) that someone just might be gullible (and desperate) enough to believe them and do what they want. And some people are just nuts.

beginnerr2003

I'm always amazed when I hear on the news that someone lost £10k in a scam. They sent the money to someone in Nigeria who informed them of a million pounds win and they just had to send a release fee!

TeresaRudolph71 · 51-55, F

Wow. I get emails sometimes telling me that I may have won some big money, but they need my information. I just delete those emails immediately. With all the information that we have available to us now, it is amazing that some people are still that naïve. Of course, it's also sad that there are people out there who take advantage of people like that.

beginnerr2003

I had a message request tonight. Came through. So and so would like to send you a message. Checked his profile and seemed OK so I said yes. Within seconds A message arrived. "Do you have pictures of your wife, girlfriend or family?" Didn't even say hello😀 blocked him.

TeresaRudolph71 · 51-55, F

Yeah, that's kind of weird, and creepy. It's disturbing that some people think it's okay to ask for personal information (or pictures) right away, without taking the time to get to know someone (and let the other person get to know them) first. I guess some people want instant gratification in every area of their lives and don't want to do the work to get what they want. They don't understand that there aren't any shortcuts when it comes to getting to know someone.

Good for you for blocking him.

beginnerr2003

Good morning. Missed your message last night. Your right about taking the time to get to know someone. I get this at work as well. A new person comes in and they start talking to you like you were brought up together. I don't think I'm over reserved by thinking "why are you talking to me like that. You don't even know me yet" Moan over😀 Have a good day. Peter

Sinjintiger

Thanks for posting this. I'm always curious to see how weird things can get in private. At least you tried talking to him first instead of just blocking like some of the more rude people.

TeresaRudolph71 · 51-55, F

Yeah, sometimes I'm not sure how much I should try to reason with someone before blocking them. He wasn't making much sense for a while (probably partly due to poor typing ability and partly due to a poor grasp of the English language). So I wanted to be sure that I understood what he was getting at before I decided what to do about it. And I also try to give people a better chance to explain themselves and maybe apologize for being inappropriate before blocking them.

Thanks for taking the time to read it.

pearllederman

did you know you can have your settings set up only to receive messages from people in your circle? i do that for these reasons

TeresaRudolph71 · 51-55, F

I didn't know that. The way my account is set up, if someone is in my circle, I have to give them permission to message me. Then, once I've given them permission, they can message me until I block them. Is your account set up in such a way that you wouldn't even get a notification that someone wants to send you a message if they aren't in your circle?

Iamalostcause

Yeah cum stains like him give every guy under 25 a bad name

Longlegs2014

That was simply unacceptable of him.

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