I Am Working On Myself

Losing weight, getting more tattoos and looking like the you that you want to look like, may be taking you further away from yourself than into it. This entire world has been set up to make it look like material things are all that is, and the more STUFF you have, the more of a person you are. It's totally bogus. Self confidence and being a successful person isn't something you wear, any more than class or status.

Kudos to you for wanting to improve yourself. Beware of wolves is sheep's clothing. Find out what FEELS good to you which aligns you with your True Nature, your Inner Being, Higher Power, God, whatever you want to call it. Don't fall for imagery as that which you are in essence. When you believe you are your identity - what you have, what you wear, how sexy you are - there's no way for you to find the true person you really are. That's what the people who run the planet would love for you to do. It keeps you consuming, which keeps them calling the shots.

Stay away from television. It's toxic and keeps you in a place of wanting, thinking you need to become what it projects, and consuming its junk. Take walks in nature. Practice self-inquiry. Stop comparing, judging, evaluating, being critical. Nothing is more or less valuable than anything else. Use what you have in a way that helps you to close the gap between your authentic self, and your acquired self masquerading as your authentic self. Observe the differences. Be easy with it, have fun with it, and don't be so hard on yourself.

You want your boyfriend to be pleased with you? Become the best version or YOU you can be. Everything else will fall into place.

Good Luck.

I'm in your same shoes with this. I wish I had more confidence then I wouldn't feel the way I do lately. I shouldn't- but I question am I enough, etc...because sometimes I don't feel like enough. I wish I liked myself more and I struggle everyday with this feeling.

You have stated clearly that your one biggest issue is your self confidence. You then go on to nitpick your physical status, which is genetics, and honestly, the hand you've been dealt in life and unchangeable (you can modify, but you are still the basic you).

Can I give you a little bit of information that might change this problem...? Changing your physical self doesn't give you self confidence. The self confidence people get from changing themselves physically comes from the ACCOMPLISHMENT of self discipline, setting and reaching goals, and successfully doing something.

If you want to increase your self confidence, may I suggest focusing upon challenging yourself... not physically (although you can, if that's your thing), but by becoming involved in things you are passionate about. I am involved in a lot of civic activities (also an officer in a Masonic Lodge). By volunteering my time and making positive change for the better in my community, I FEEL FREAKING FANTASTIC all the time.

To put it in another way, seek not the meaning of life, rather, seek a life of meaning. Give yourself purpose, and the confidence will naturally follow.

If you put your efforts towards losing your weight and toning up your muscles ... you will be amazed at how much that helps ! Your face will be slimmer , your curves will please you , the clothes you can wear ... and once that happens your attitude changes and then you feel beautiful . You are already loved , now work on being happy . It's ok to be your own worst critic , but it's not ok to sit in your ass and do nothing about it . Make a fitness plan. The old P90x work out videos are very good , you won't get bored. Do something nice for yourself ! You deserve it 🤠

I think you are probably fine the way you are.... You are probably too hard on yourself💗 thinking you have to loose weight or that you have to have another tattoo to be sexy or that you are not sexy enough... So I just might have to give you the first push and stand by your side to guide you a little...💗