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Stuck in the eternal struggle of needing a close friend to confide in, and not having the energy or the will to get close with anyone.

How do you do it?
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Don't trust anyone they will betray you
I tried to accept that I probably wasn't going to have anyone I was going to be close to, for a long time. It still hurt just as much, but it made it slightly easier to not focus on how alone I felt, and the longing didn't feel so strong all the time. I tried to find other things that made me feel comforted. And not actively hoping for a deeper connection helped me enjoy and appreciate people more, and helped me sorta get more out of my relationships because I wasn't thinking about them as hard. It definitely wasn't perfect by any means, but it was better.

It's extremely difficult to feel so extremely alone, I'm sorry you know how it feels.
Allelse · 36-40, M
I had to cut contact with my last really close friend, it'd turned into an emotionally dependent relationship and they needed proper help. I couldn't help them the way they needed. Hurt like hell and I don't think I'll ever have a friend like them again, as they have only gotten more and more mentally ill as the years have gone by.
bushi2020 · 36-40, M
Friendship is a tricky thing I have had a bad experience personally. I come from a small town and people that I know would say that they were my friend they would say that I am a "brother" and so one as a means to get close to me to use me but because I was so lonely and so giving I thought that I was helping them and they were just taking advantage of me. I research study showed that half of your friends are not really friends for this very reason friendship is mostly a tool to get ahead and have people use you. When I get lonely I just write like I am doing now or just try to work out do something to take it out of my mind.
I struggle the same way. Thankfully I have a few friends that don't mind slow responses and don't expect to chat every day.
xRedx · M
I confide with my cat but all he cares about is his food
Rambler · 61-69, M
I don’t think you can will that into happening...the luck of coming across the right person and the wisdom to recognize that it’s someone you can trust
I have the energy and the will to get close, it's just hard to find other people who have it.
Sometimes friends are not always trustworthy
If you ever find out let me know
Montanaman · M
Pick and choose wisely 👍🤗🤗
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