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I dislike the attitude of a victim.

Magnolia21 · 22-25, F Best Comment
True victims, those that have been actually victimized, don't even behave like the "victims" we see on a daily basis. Some people enjoy the martyrdom, the victimhood, because it makes them unique. Of course, they downplay actual victims, but who cares right?
Queendragonfly · 31-35, F
@Magnolia21 I disagree. The way victims of a trauma behaves is the way victims of trauma behaves.
Magenta · F
@Queendragonfly I had a thought about that too, as nothing is black and white.
Their past trauma may make them see things as abuse that isn't.
Queendragonfly · 31-35, F
@Magenta There are cases when people without trauma has low self esteem or low self worth that results in a victim mentality. But they don't do it for attention or ego either, they do it for support, it's a subconscious way to scream for support and help.

Carissimi · 61-69, F
There are faux victims, and real victims. We seem to have whole populations of faux victims, these days.
Carissimi · 61-69, F
A person who is offended for some truth, or on behalf of others, when others are not offended themselves. Needing a safe place because you see a banana peel on the ground, and declare it racism, or a guy asking you out, and you are offended, and call it assault. These are faux victims. @Queendragonfly
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Carissimi · 61-69, F
So, I’m not allowed to have my own opinions, or form judgments, or make an analysis of people’s behavior, and you think I’m the problem. You sound like a fascist. Goodbye! Yes, I don’t want anything to do with Woke tyrants. @Queendragonfly
This site loves it lmao
Just be grateful that you don’t walk in their shoes
@JustAnotherAlt I'm grateful always am, always should.
woe is me.
give me hugs and attention
Yep, most of what I see are those just wanting attention or have hurt egos so every little small insult or trivial social media negativity towards them is claimed as abuse that they go on about for months. It makes the insecurity feel validated.

Real legit victims won't be behaving that way most times
Queendragonfly · 31-35, F
@SW-User People who react like this often [i]have been [/i] real victims and in their mind and body they are still reliving the trauma which is out of their control, the only ones claiming it's for attention or ego based is the people who lack understanding.
PersistenceOfMemory · 31-35, F
To create circumstances and then to play the victim ......
Queendragonfly · 31-35, F
It can be frustrating but it might help to know that people who are stuck in a victim mindset often have been victims in a traumatic experience and as a result their brains project that automatic trauma response in everything, even online interactions because from their perspective, they're still experiencing said trauma and doing everything in their power to survive. This happens automatically for people with personality disorders. And can happen automatically to people with low self esteem and or low self worth.
There are victims, and then there are [b]survivors[/b].
@ChipmunkErnie Having been a victim doesn’t necessarily mean continuing to define oneself as such. Some people prefer to describe themselves as [b]survivors[/b].
ChipmunkErnie · 70-79, M
@bijouxbroussard yes, of course. Never mind, you missed my point. I give up.
@ChipmunkErnie Yeah, I admit it. I wasn’t seeking any argument.
ChipmunkErnie · 70-79, M
Probably inappropriate, but suddenly thinking of expressive victimhood all I can picture is Lebron James and his whining, pleading antics on the basketball court when a ref calls a foul on him. The man looks like he's actually in pain because of the unfairness of his life.
calicuz · 51-55, M
Yes, I work with one. So frustrating. 🙄
MartinTheFirst · 22-25, M
Come up with one original thought please

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