I dislike the attitude of a victim.

It can be frustrating but it might help to know that people who are stuck in a victim mindset often have been victims in a traumatic experience and as a result their brains project that automatic trauma response in everything, even online interactions because from their perspective, they're still experiencing said trauma and doing everything in their power to survive. This happens automatically for people with personality disorders. And can happen automatically to people with low self esteem and or low self worth.