When friends ignore you/cut you out/block you completely do you just accept it or does it drive you mad wondering why?

I used to be one who would fight to keep the connection alive while blaming myself for not being enough for them. But man, does that create a lot of darkness that only effects me and wastes a ton of energy that could be used for better things. There is no more energy given to the falls off because I’ve learned 99% of the time, they come back around when the timing is better for them and when things have settled a bit. And I’m okay with that because sometimes people just need to step away for their own good, and it’ll be done selfishly at times. When my mind tries to take it to a dark place, I immediately shut that crap down. Because I see it as past unhealed pain trying to be built upon for one hell of a strike and refuse to give past experiences too much weight over new ones due to that. I’ve learned a lot about myself and others from people I loved and connected deeply with walking away, either suddenly or gradually over time. But shit happens, man. A lot of it out of our control. So I respect people’s decision and while it stings, I understand why abrupt leavings are a thing. Simply because my broken heart was forced to go a different route for its own protection and growth. Even in silence love and peace is given. Because screw my mind trying to stir up anything else just because of past hurts. I’m too old and tired for my energy to be wasted like that.

It drives me mad for more than a few days.. of kicking and screaming and then I lose interest of mutual friendship…

If they ignore me, I will never disturb them again. That’s not an easy feat for me.

Great question!

Depends on the circumstances. If they were upset at the time, then it's gonna take a long time to get a grip again. Otherwise, I'll be alright. They'll occupy my thoughts for a while, but it's not so painful.

It makes me sad that they couldn't or wouldn't talk to me about it first.. at least help me to understand.
I've been blocked and ignored, probably muted by people who i thought were friends when I came back..
I wonder and struggle with it but at the end of the day there is nothing I can do about it..
I'm powerless over what others think or how they react.
It's disappointing when people say they accept people for who they are and kinks or sexuality doesn't matter....
Until it does.

I blame myself for having wasted my time and energy on something fake....

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It bothers me way more than I ever let on. I feel you. 🤗

I seem to have some phases.
At first it hurts.
Then I try to understand what's going on... That there's something going on in their life... Accept it.
In the middle of everything I deal with loss feelings, anger, sadness. Lots of questions unanswered.

And then there's only indifference and I don't care anymore. People that truly want to be in my life are gonna be there
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I've known my best friend for 48 of my 52 years.
We've have gone in and out of each other's lives dozens of times.

Sometimes everything isn't everything it seems, and other times it's worse than you thought.
You have to trust your gut on that part....

But, if you're always leaving things open and always greeting things with open arms, the world can surprise you with worthwhile times long after you thought someone forgot....

Best of luck.

Sorry! It would be just so hard for them to say, we don't have anything in common time to move on?
My thoughts
With some people, yes ghosting. But sometimes when a person seems to be ignoring you, it's actually, because they have something going on with them. And a lot of people take it personally. But depression can cause you to act in ways that you wouldn't normally behave. If you're deep in depression you're not able to show as much attention to other people as they would like. Be careful before you decide someone's ignoring you. They may be going through something very hard themselves. Although trust is forever broken. Takes a few minutes to say I need a break for a time or we just don't vibe anymore. I can usually tell the way the conversation is going. Each person different reasons? Mystery...I build a wall for a bit careful who might break my heart again.

It disturbs me at a very deep level, thanks to my flaw of feeling things too deeply.
I'd be going through it in my mind non stop, wondering what i did.

So i do understand what you're going through, and very sorry for that

I wouldn't say it drives me mad, but I always wish I understood the "why". It's probably somewhat of a character flaw that I seek some sort of closure. I'm fine if I can just understand, say goodbye, wish them well and disappear, but not having the opportunity to do that is difficult.

There's one person in my life who still does that, I've honestly been thinking about just not bothering talking to them again because I don't like that being on my mind either.

It's not nice though, it just spins around and round because you don't know why.

When someone blocks you like that it puts them in a position of power over you. They control the flow of communication. Dont let them have that power over you. Feel your grief and then try to move on without them.

Ive been crushed by friends dropping me before now. Heartbroken. Id try anything to reconnect, find out how i can fix it......but, these ladt few months ive finally learned to let things slide. If they drop me......its their loss not mine x

I overthink at first then I sever ties, completely. Once you make that conscious decision to get out of my life, you stay out.

It does drive me mad, but eventually I move on from it because if I really mattered to them, they would give me an explanation.

R.I.P they are dead to me ...especially if they ghosted me . I will not waste anymore energy on people like this anymore .

I have had to do this with people and I do not fault them for doing it to me. Sometimes your energies are not good for each other at times and it’s nothing personal. If I care about someone, it’s love to let them go without making it about me.

Hardest part is not knowing why.

Online? I stopped wondering and move along on my own

A bit of both
It’s crushing regardless

Oh I understand

I usually wonder why

Yes, it used to upset me deeply but not as much anymore. I understand that not everyone is genuine and cares about my friendship. If they don’t care then I shouldn’t either. They aren’t worth my time.

Me and my friends come and go in each other's life. Sometimes we talk daily, sometimes once a year

i accept it and move on. i also look at the action of friends. if there is meanness behind it, then off they go.

I just like to sigh them up to weird random shit.

I'm just glad the trash always takes itself out.

I feel the same way. Totally sucks lol

To be totally honest, it's more likely to be me blocking them out. If I sense something isn't right I'll be the one to move first. Nobody likes being the one who is dropped, but if it does happen then I just close off pretty quick.

Someone did that a few months ago. I thought of them as a pretty good friend, and they did all the artwork for my Corvus feathersona. They got COVID in November, and I kept sending them encouraging messages, and asking if they were okay. Apparently, that made me a monster piece of shit, and they told me so in April before blocking me.

I feel the exact same Sophie. It crushes me and I wonder why I did wrong. I am sorry you are going through this. You are a wonderful friend and it’s their loss.

I'm so sorry, I'm not very good with sending messages there is no need to make a big fuss🧐🧐🧐🧐🧐🤗🤗🤗🤗

I'm very good at accepting that kind of thing. If they don't want me, I don't want them.

It hurts but I move on. They aren't real friends