FCNantes · 22-25, M
Hmmm... I must have some thoughts, given my own predicament, though there's a very substantial difference compared to yours.
I'm not someone that has much tendency to dwell on the past, however, it hurts me that I've 90% missed out on the kind of experiences & activities that I've been wanting to do for the past dozen-ish years, & even if things totally turn around in the future, there'll always be this sense of loss, not a regret but something of a similar quality.
2019 was meant to be the launchpad for my social life & activities (1st year of uni), but Covid throttled that.
Don't deny your feelings, don't expect it to ever not sting & bruise, but it's probably best not to indulge in this sentiment.
For me, when I have this kind of feeling, that's okay, & I engage with it, but if it was to continue for hours, that's when I'd try to focus onto something else, & remind myself that dwelling on the past isn't beneficial, other than to stop oneself from burying their feelings.
I'm not sure what it means to come to terms with something, other than to accept & not deny it.
Your loss is real, it can never be undone, but the past is only part of your picture.
I'm not someone that has much tendency to dwell on the past, however, it hurts me that I've 90% missed out on the kind of experiences & activities that I've been wanting to do for the past dozen-ish years, & even if things totally turn around in the future, there'll always be this sense of loss, not a regret but something of a similar quality.
2019 was meant to be the launchpad for my social life & activities (1st year of uni), but Covid throttled that.
Don't deny your feelings, don't expect it to ever not sting & bruise, but it's probably best not to indulge in this sentiment.
For me, when I have this kind of feeling, that's okay, & I engage with it, but if it was to continue for hours, that's when I'd try to focus onto something else, & remind myself that dwelling on the past isn't beneficial, other than to stop oneself from burying their feelings.
I'm not sure what it means to come to terms with something, other than to accept & not deny it.
Your loss is real, it can never be undone, but the past is only part of your picture.
Arrow17 · F
You are lucky that you had a wonderful childhood and good parents to give you emotional support. I don't have parents who love me unconditionally.
I am very unwelcomed by my own mother. I am not allowed to stay in her house for 3 days while visiting.
My parents hated me because I disagreed a lot with them. I fell out with my mom. I told her that I won't attend her funeral and donate money for her burial.
They don't care about my feelings. They are always trying to find faults in my fashion, behaviour, lifestyle and decisions. My parents and siblings are toxic people in my life. I don't trust them for anything. I may sue them in court one day.
My childhood witnessed domestic violence. I didn't attend my dad's funeral and I didn't care about his illness and death. I didn't send any money to help him.
I try to control my emotions by thinking and doing something that makes me happy. I make extreme decisions and it makes me feel good.
My careers were awful. I changed a lot of jobs. I felt I didn't achieve anything.
I don't like to work for people. I am getting older and don't like to be surrounded by people. People don't care about me. Why do I need them in my life?
All I need to do is earn plenty of money by betting in the stock market. I don't care about making friends. Money will have never betrayed me.
I am very unwelcomed by my own mother. I am not allowed to stay in her house for 3 days while visiting.
My parents hated me because I disagreed a lot with them. I fell out with my mom. I told her that I won't attend her funeral and donate money for her burial.
They don't care about my feelings. They are always trying to find faults in my fashion, behaviour, lifestyle and decisions. My parents and siblings are toxic people in my life. I don't trust them for anything. I may sue them in court one day.
My childhood witnessed domestic violence. I didn't attend my dad's funeral and I didn't care about his illness and death. I didn't send any money to help him.
I try to control my emotions by thinking and doing something that makes me happy. I make extreme decisions and it makes me feel good.
My careers were awful. I changed a lot of jobs. I felt I didn't achieve anything.
I don't like to work for people. I am getting older and don't like to be surrounded by people. People don't care about me. Why do I need them in my life?
All I need to do is earn plenty of money by betting in the stock market. I don't care about making friends. Money will have never betrayed me.
CloudAngel80 · 41-45, F
Your present situation is not your final destination.
The same sun wich melts the butter, hardens the clay.
The journey of a thousand miles starts with one step....
Everyone has something they regret, rehearse, forget, or neglect.
No, you will not find someone EXACTLY like you, but surely similar problems in your life are to guide, direct, and lead you to a different place 😉
The same sun wich melts the butter, hardens the clay.
The journey of a thousand miles starts with one step....
Everyone has something they regret, rehearse, forget, or neglect.
No, you will not find someone EXACTLY like you, but surely similar problems in your life are to guide, direct, and lead you to a different place 😉