I have an actual question .. When does positivity become toxic ? What does that look like for...

Positivity is toxic when it's used to mask hard, important truths that should be dealt with. Basically, positivity is toxic when it's a lie.

Coralmist · 41-45, F

When it completely disregards actual legitimate emotions like sadness or worry. My sister is having awful neuropathy in her feet and can barely walk..at just 36. She told my aunt (who is an extremely dismissive rude person)..and she had to twist my sisters sadness around and just said "At least you have a roof over your head" 🫨That to me was a form of toxic positivity.

iamonfire696 · 41-45, F

I find it toxic when it becomes dismissive of how you feel. Sometimes things aren’t going to be okay or it’s unknown. Just let me have those feelings and get through them.

I also don’t like it when people tell me to push through. I am an adult and know what needs to be done.

Sometimes we just need to have these feelings to process stuff. That’s when positivity becomes toxic.

Magenta · F

Any time someone tries to force over positive words on me (or someone else) for when I am feeling down, sad, etc.. or invalidating my feelings, it's toxic.
It's an extreme and dysfunctional form of positivity and way of handling emotions. I think it's avoidance of what it is to be a human with all the myriad of emotions we naturally have. In a way it's lying to oneself and not facing reality. And it's something I abhor.

MsSwan

If you mean for an example someone's ego, then too much self positivity can become toxic because you're unable to see your flaws anymore.

SwampFlower · 31-35, F

I think everyone has pretty much covered it in general.

Personally, I have been gaslighting myself into toxic positivity sometimes lately. Like not letting myself feel frustration or sadness simply because things aren't as bad as they were before. Have to keep reminding that we have a whole spectrum of emotions for a reason and it is okay to feel them.

Ontheroad · M

When positivity becomes ego and when it ignores the hurt/issues of others.

Matt85 · 36-40, M

never 💁‍♂

Straylight · 31-35, F

When it becomes enabling of bad habits.

HootyTheNightOwl

I have a condition that causes me to faint/collapse.

My mother:- "Just push through it"... It doesn't work like that. Trying makes me worse and takes longer for me to recover. Trust me, I want to participate as much as the next person.

My former work coach:- "Just don't tell employers that you have it when they ask in the interview"... Yes, because I really want to fall from a cherry picker in some Amazon warehouse, right??? Oh yeah, and I would be liable for any damages I cause in the event I land on someone...

Bexsy

When you're asked your opinions or thoughts and you give it and you're constantly told to stop beingbso negative or such a downer like your opinion didn't matter in the first place

Alyosha · 31-35, M

When it's a facade. Don't lie about things being fine when they're not.

Quimliqer · 70-79, M

There’s two kinds of positivity, acted and natural! The first kind gets toxic very quick as it’s pushed out on others, the second never gets boring as the person projecting it does so unknowingly!!

Bignakedguy · 31-35, M

Also when it becomes weaponized

mooncrest02 · 31-35, F

Trying to not experience bad feelings