Some examples: If you carve out some “me time” for yourself to do things that you enjoy then that is practicing self love. Also doing things for yourself by yourself is practicing self love. Talking kinder to yourself (that internal dialogue) also.
@Jeephikelove Just for a positive push, what is one "me time" for you? Self-compassion is beautiful, and has ways around that internal dialogue in kindness.. I love making small conversation with people on a trail while walking and seeing them genuinely smile as they are seen?
@thewindupbirdchronicles it’s s simple one, drinking a cup of tea and doing jigsaw puzzles online. That’s nice that you say hi to people, that seems to be lost in a world of earbuds.
@Jeephikelove I should try that, I'm an odd one I love strategy games, jigsaw puzzles, but the next moment I'm feeling am I the one lost as I listen to people, but find a different path in life for healing. Solitary reading poetry.... but there is somewhere between, and how I am in public, I only think of what I am giving them (while knowing the smile it gives me)....
As I've matured, I realize the importance of such matters. If you don't take care of yourself, who will? And, the opposite (self-hatred and self-loathing) is no fun and very damaging. Praticing self-love will prevent self-loathing as well as lessen its effects. Unfortunately, when you get in a rut, the last thing you want to do is care for yourself. Most likely, you'll want to do the complete opposite. In my opinion, it's best to care for yourself on a regular basis. Curing poor behavior is more difficult than preventing it.
Self love is a process of self discovery. I like to call it being able to date oneself. Having a desire for continual improvement to loving who you are and recognizing who you want to be. An evolution through experiences with others in how can I be my best friend.
O I answered this to a mutual friend, but it's not the kind you are asking .... really you must let go of your hurt, no matter if you feel it right or valid.... You have to accept yourself entirely in your totality, with not looking upon what the world tells you, and you even have to let go of some of your own desires, just to know your own love, as you can have people who shake you, move you, give you love.... but if you don't feel your own love, you won't really see theirs.. Most people say search light, kindness, wellness... I say damnation gives rainbows, the hoo hah of positive thought, needs a spade to remember their own joker card. You are a kind soul
You need to take care of yourself. Relax when you need to, do things you enjoy, take time for some creativity or whatever…music, friends, good food, etc. Get away from stress when it’s needed too.
I actually have a post in my drafts regarding this subject. It's a crucial step forward, takes a devoted soul and tons of self reflection. It took me 'til my 40's to love myself. Here I was passing around compassion that I didn't even have for myself. Sound familiar?😉 I feel all the more blessed, but I do worry with you because that type of introduction needed can get kinda dark. Still though, you owe yourself such a gift because you are a 🎁, my big hearted friend...
Its not even self love Its sometimes just as small as doing something nice for yourself We shroud are our selves in the negative. Once you get yourself out of thinking everything is negative that's being kind to yourself Just not twining everything is shit is self love We can all do it tbh but we choose to live and love regardless of past
Self love or 'self care ' can be quite hard for some. Basically its taking time out to realise an enforce protection and care for oneself. -It can be things like learning to set boundaries with others. -Saying "no" sometimes, instead of always doing what others want. -.it can be delegating some work to others instead if taking it all on yourself. - its rest - its enjoyment of personal interests. - it can be allowing oneself small luxuries like sleeping in, going shopping for oneself, getting a manicure or a massage or going to the movies. -.its looking after oneself mentally, emotionally and physically . - Having 'me' time. - It can even be something like learning to ask for help, instead of struggling all on ones own.
A lot of people struggle with self love. They have been conditioned to think its selfish, or that giving and doing for others is so good, they forget to give and do for themselves. Some even g4t to the point where they feel guilty about ever wanting anything for themselves. Some people can even forget what it is to want for themselves so much, they dont know what self care is anymore.
Basically, self love is love, consideration and care that you would do for others, that you do for yourself, or ask others to do for you : " can you do the dishes tonight, i really want to lay down". "Its a sunny day, im going to the beach" "Tonight im going to cook something I like" "No, you can put your own stuff away" "Can we watch something i like instead?"
Its not just about doing stuff for yourself, its also about learning to speak up for your needs and wants as well - letting others know you require a little care and consideration back .
If you have trouble understanding what it is, go look ar the list of human rights, its a good baseline for understanding what every human should deserve.
complement yourself when a job is well done give yourself mani's and pedi's facials raise your game lift your standards buy a quality purse and amazing shoes lol
